Do Nice Guys Always Finish Last ?

@PinchMe (193)
Canada
February 26, 2007 5:48pm CST
I met a girl I thought was wonderful in every way. She was thoughtful, gentle and appeared very wise. I thought this was very attractive. Knowing that she was single I asked her out. She accepted and we dated for about 3 months. I received a phone call one night explaining that things were not going to work out. We talked some more on the phone and I asked what went wrong. She said, being to the point, "you are too nice! I need a little bit more of an edge in a guy I date. She went on listing names of different guys she previously dated; emphisizing the fact that they all spent time in jail or worst. If there was a race I feel like I was never in it.!? Are nice guys destined to be last or a no show at the finish line? Or is this a fable ? What is your thought on this? I wonder what gender came up with this one liner? Thanks for taking the time to read :-)
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trinihd
@trinihd (996)
• United States
27 Feb 07
No I don't believe they always finish last, except maybe with girls who do not know how to appreciate nice guys! I think this girl needs therapy if she broke up with you because you are "too nice"...seriously! Can that ever be a reason to break up with someone? It is pure madness! The world has indeed gone mad if a girl would choose that as the only reason to break up with a guy, and voluntarily choose to go with someone who has had a prison record instead! I do have a thought about why this might happen though. Maybe nice guys sometimes choose the wrong girls because they are too nice to see the "bad" in the girl they choose and so they end up "last". In that case, it may be a flaw to be too nice! I hope that you will continue to be nice nonetheless and trust that you will find an even nicer girl who will put you first! Be blessed!
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@homepage (57)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
Ok....you said you received a phone call one night from her telling you that things were not working out. I can understand that you might be curious to know what went wrong but after she told you that you were too nice....you should have said great.....your loss. She definitely doesn't appreciate you. Maybe you are too nice for her.
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p8ntballr21
@p8ntballr21 (857)
• United States
26 Feb 07
This is why girls are totally confusing. They complain how they always get stuck with the bad guys and wished a nice guy would come along. A nice guy comes along like they wished, but the girl always says they are too nice. I have been in that situation before, and it sucks. I think it is really the girls problem and how they never been with a nice guy, that they really aren't ready for a real relationship, a serious one. I think I read somewhere online that guys generally start to settle down from having fun at their mid 20's while a girl settles down in their late 20's/early 30's And yes, most nice guys end up last but few make it to the finish line.
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