Career or Love?
@La_Bella_Vita (598)
United States
February 26, 2007 9:03pm CST
I have always been told that I should concentrate on my career before I look for love. People say that when it is the right time love will just fall into your lap.
I'm not a true believer in that logic. Love, just like anything else, needs to attention and takes time and a lot of commitment to be discovered and to be sustained.
Still, I meet so many young people who say they are without a doubt going to put love on hold until they accomplish the material and worldly things they with to accomplish.
The problem I see with that is if are shutting the door on love what if it passes by while you have your head down? I believe that the right one doesn't come around on our schedule, but comes around when it feels that the time is right.
Do you agree that you must be actively looking for love or do you believe that you decide when the time is right?
Can the parade pass you by or does the show stop until you tell it to go?
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@pebbles_cubbie (3789)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I grew up hearing the same thing. I don't believe this completely either. If you happen to find love with someone before your career then you must nurture it and make a commitment to the person to try and make the love better and stronger. I would rather have love than a career any day. Love lasts forever, until you die. Your career could last a few years or five minutes. It's not a guaranteed thing. Love is guaranteed if you hold on to it and treat it right. The right person comes along when you least expect it. You may be totally blind to it if you are just concentrating on your career. I don't think you need to be always looking for love, but you do need to keep an open heart and an open mind to it. It sure can pass you by. It may not just fall in your lap and stay for good.
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@La_Bella_Vita (598)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Great answer. A true romantic like myself.
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@pebbles_cubbie (3789)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Yes I am a romantic. I'm a pisces. It's in my nature.
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@enchantedleppard (1541)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Oh no, it hits you when you are least expecting it. People told me that for years and when I wasnt expecting to meet anyone I met the one. We both balance our jobs and our love quite nicely and each never expected to meet each other at the time we did. So I'm all for it.
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@scorpionmanace (358)
• India
27 Feb 07
well i cant understand y r u waiting for ur love......if u get it right now go on with it.......the only thing u have to remember is that ur career is moe inportant so u have to give moe stress on ur career building efforts......
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
That used to be my goals before when i was in my younger years. But then it happened to me just like what you said Love just came in and fell on my lap and when it does I wasn't able to go out and just jump right into it like crazy. LOL! So its seems you are still young do what you feel is best for yourself but then when the "LOVE" thing do come don't ignore it, entertain it if your mature enough and you'll see you can both run your career and lovelife together and it could even better your inspiration to work harder for your love.
@mememama (3076)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I don't get why you can't have love and a career. I fell in love, married, and still managed to work up into management until I got pregnant (high risk). You don't go out looking for true love, it just happens. I can't imagine meeting my husband and saying "oh please wait a few years, I need to make some money". I think if you put a job before love, then it wasn't true love to begin with. But again I never went out looking for love, it just happened to be that I met a man and fell in love.
@kgsaravana (169)
• India
5 Mar 07
firstn web should settle in the life. and then only we should see about love.
