oppinion needed.
By mom_of_2
@mom_of_2 (398)
Canada
February 26, 2007 10:02pm CST
About 3 months my hubbys niece asked us to attend her grad and I told her we would. Now I find out our other niece will be receiving her first communion the weekend before the grad. Here is the dilema.. We can't possibly attend both celebrations because we livemore than 6 hrs away from both families and my husband wouldn't be able to leave work 2 weekends in an row. We also have 2 small children who are not good travellers. The other issue is the fact that the niece receiving her first communion is our God child. What do I do ? I all but promissed to attend the grad so Do I stick with plan A or do I cancel since its my God child receiving holy sacraments. I think the one graduating is old enough to understand but she will be going away to university (6 year studies) and I dont know when I would see her next.
The other girl is only 7 and I will be able to celebrate lots of milestones in the future but as God parents I really feel we should be there when she receives her first communion.
Advice....Anyone ???
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@brandi_girl_16 (624)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I think that you should attend the graduation because you may not get to attend something special for her again (in case she doesn't graduate college, which sometimes happens!) You have many more opportunities with the 7 year old. If I had to choose I would go to the graduation! Good luck...
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@Grandmaof2 (7578)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
Always easy for someone to say. I think I'd go to the graduation based on the fact that you committed to that first,and time is running short as to how many other opportunities there may be,however that may not be your best discission. By your post I would say you have a strong tie to your religious beliefs and I think it wouldn't hurt to pray about this situation and as one of your friends I will too and when time comes I'm sure you'll follow your heart.In a very gentle way I think it could be suggested the 7 year olds folks could have managed the date aroung grad as I'm sure they must be invited to that. Good Luck...
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@Grandmaof2 (7578)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
Unexpected but Thank You for the Best Response!!!
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@syndibee (799)
• United States
30 Mar 07
just want to inform you, the parents of the 7 yr old didn't "plan" this particular date for their daughters first holy communion. it's set by the church. they prepare the children all year for this as a special event as it's one of the major stepping stones within the church and if they miss their first communion with their class or grade, then they have to wait for the next year. it's not something like a birthday party that the parents can plan at their own convenience. hope this helps you understand this dilema...both occasions dates are set by the officials in charge, not by either of the childrens families.
@syndibee (799)
• United States
30 Mar 07
i would go to the communion as the godparent i feel that is your moral obligation to be a part of her religious guidance.
this is a very big moment for both girls but the one graduating won't even be paying much attention to you as she's at an age where the celebration is more for her and her friends, the congratulations and pride come from family and i believe that can be portrayed without being there. i think i would plan a special time with the graduate before she goes off to her studies though.
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