I'm afraid my daughter will grow up like a tomboy
By charms88
@charms88 (7538)
Philippines
February 27, 2007 4:07am CST
Oh no...its not like what you're all thinking about. I'm talking about my daughter's movements and mannerisms. Whenever she eat, the area where she's sitting is a mess. Her plate is a mess even the table is a mess. Whenever she speak, its like she has a microphone built inside her throat. She has an exceptional loud voice like she's yelling. Whenever she sit, both her legs were always spread wide apart. I kept reminding her how to eat properly, to lower her voice, to sit like a lady. I don't know if this has something to do with genes inherited from her daddy. Because my husband is also like that. I'm getting tired of reminding her to change her manners. Anyone who can give me a good solution? Or is it better to let her stay that way? By the way, my daughter is turning 9 this year.
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5 responses
@wmaharper (2315)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I think you can keep encouraging her to sit like a lady, to use an indoor voice when inside, and to eat politely. THese are all things she needs to learn. There is nothing wrong with encouraging your little girl to be less loud, or tomboyish. Just know, some girls are tomboys, (I was) and they usually grow out of it eventually, (I did), just provide her with the basic social skills that all children need regardless of their gender, and she'll be fine. Once she notices that she is louder, and messier than all of her friends, she will probably begin to change her habits on her own.
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@jigishap (595)
• India
27 Feb 07
I think so many girls behave guy in their early age you know they want to look cool like a guy but she will be ok after some time.. so don't worry.
But I think you should keep telling her how to behave like a good girl.. don't toucher her but keep reminding is good.
@tammyr (5945)
• Etowah, Tennessee
16 Mar 07
My daughter is a tom-boy through and through. She will only wear boy clothes, play boy games and toys. She has short hair and like to play with boys better than girls. She is a well behaved child for the most part, just a rough & tumble kinda kid.
I had worries that she may become lesbian, but after talking to lots of others found that this is not unusual at her age, she is 10. Lots of girls go through a stage and then when puberty hits, they discover they like the girlie stuff as well.
Do not stress over it and keep reminding her to mind her manners, as you would any child, boy or girl. And remember to not tell her things like , " Why can't you be like your sister." as this will cause her to feel as if she is not as good as her sister.
@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
If it comforts you, I would say that this is probably a period in her life which will pass away as soon as she enters her teen-age. I had a little friend, she was my pupil too, who behaved like your daughter till the age of about 12-13. She is 18 now, and she's very calm, gentle and woman-like. So don't worry. :) Your patience will only help.
