First time Dad distant from wife and son?

Trust me, I am the father of 3 children, which are all grown up now (the youngest is 23 and the oldest is 26), but as they were growing up they too appeared to bond more with there mother than with me. But notice, the word APPEARED! I soon found out that an innocent child responds equally to the love and affections of both parents. Be joyful with the beautiful family that you have and cherish every moment with the young one. There will be plenty of time to develope extraordinary times with your infant son. But make sure you enjoy and make it enjoyable all the way around- because before you know it, he will be all grown up. And much of his character will be dependent on the way he was brought up. Blessings....

I have 2 grown children. The bonding issue with children is an up & down ordeal. It's normal actions as childrens minds & hearts are ever changing. This is strange as when my son the youngest of the 2 was born I was on the road. I used a CB at that time. I was on my way back from Rockford Illinois to Minneapolis Minnesota chatting on the radio. Someone regonized my handle & started to talk to me. He told me my wife had just gone into labor. Seems another friend knew this went to his friends to use the car CB & tried to find me. he left this message & I recieved it like in 5 minutes time. Granted I wasnt there when he was born but that's okay. I went through enuff being in the delivery room when my daughter was born. Thanks for this tiopi and have fun being a newbie here. Happy postings.

With all 3 of our children, I bonded faster than my husband did. It wasn't that my hubby was any less in love with the kids, it was that the child & I had already been bonding for the last 9 months. The child was used to the sound of my heartbeat, voice & breathing. If this is your first child, it is perfectly normal that your wife doesn't want to relinquish the baby. She knows in her heart that as time passes, young boys start to look to their father for guidance & to show them how to be a man. The best thing that you can do is to support both of them and make sure that they are both loved & cared for. It sounds to me that you have your own bonding time in the evenings, that is a special thing to a child & if you are able to continue to do it, it will be something that he will never forget. My son still talks about when he & his dad used to sit every night and have a glass of milk & 2 cookies before bed. Fathers hold special places in son's hearts, it just isn't always on the surface the way it is for a mom. Good luck to you & your family. You sound like you are going to be an excellent father.