parents and childrens friendship

The thing is we never know what the truth is with this boy. He will lie to your face and not even feel bad. I have bought every birthday and Christmas gift except one for the last four years I get no thank you and he truly believes dad gets it for him even after being told otherwise. I was cooking a big supper of fried chicken one night (his Favorite) and while I was turning the chicken a spoon feel out onto a corner of a burner it did not look hot so I picked it up it burned into my finger and he laughed and laughed, he makes the girls fight for his humor, and he repeatedly tries to start arguments between his father and I. His dad feels guilty because he can't be there full time like he is for the girls but we have offered to add on a room for him and he always refuses. I know what I deal with when he doesn't get what he wants so I'm sure the boyfriend gets the same thing after this episode his dad has finally seen the light and realized how spoiled he is. He probably does want his mom and former step dad back together but making everyone around him miserable is not the solution. I have spoken to his mom since the incident and she was trying tough love on him and he doesn't like and has never faced discipline so he got his way. He also stole $8.00 from his 5 year old sister that my daughter originally got blamed for I searched all of her stuff and then I remembered seeing him playing with her bank, we called he admitted and was supposed to come down the next weekend and apologize and recieve punishment he didn't come and nothing ever came of it he mailed the money back to her. He only visits when he wants something (e.g. Christmas, Birthday, fishing, hunting) We try to allow him freedom because he is almost sixteen but I feel he needs to earn it at this point. He was even kicked out of school for a few days last year because he was disrespectful to the principal at a Christmas program, His punishment call his dad place all blame on principal and laugh. He's past the point of talking he needs repercussions. I had to explain to his dad and grandpa that it doesn't matter to me what his mom does with him, but my primary concern is he has no work initiative we can ask them to pick up sticks to mow the yard and he will hide until its done and run to the stack and stack them when dad comes out to look like he's done something, but also what if he goes to work and has a disagreement with a co worker or employer his instinct is to run he'll never have a job, and his disrespect of elders will probably prevent him from obtaining it in the first place.