Do you approve of fix marriage?

Philippines
February 27, 2007 8:50pm CST
I have heard of fix marriages..This are when parents of different children decided their kids will marry each other when they grow up so they would be in-laws..When the kids grow up the parents of this children arrange for their marriage. I don't go for this. I would want my children to marry whoever they love and not somebody I want for them to marry. I think it is not right to be fixing our kids marriage even before hand. What can you say about this?
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10 responses
@cutebaby4 (196)
• India
6 Mar 07
I do agree with this... i don't go in fix marriages bz the time and things may change over years.. the larriage will not be done in compulsion we should also consider our children choice..
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• Philippines
14 Mar 07
Yes, Parents should always go with where their kids happiness. That is way much important than forcing your child to do such things. Thanks for the comment.
@joven222 (84)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
i don't really want fix marriages to happened. for me, this is not a good act. as parents, they should not choose what they think is good for their child. maybe, we can say that they know more that their child, but it does not feel right, telling him or her whom to love. no one can teach other person to whom to love. this is a decision that he or she would personally decide on. this decision would eventually predict that out come of his or her life.
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• Philippines
14 Mar 07
Yes I believe that parents have no right to dictate who is best or not for their child. They could give suggestions but they should not interfere with love. Thanks for the comment.
@kapoet (270)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 07
I agree with you. About love and husband /wife of someone nobody can fix that. The finally answer is from your heart. I don't want if my parents do that for me. I hope not.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 07
Yeah I wouldn't want that either.. Thanks for the comment!
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
I'm against fix marriage for the word itself fix is something like referring to a furniture that was broken and was fix and voila it can use again. I firmly believe that marriage is a lasting union and eventhough love can be learn and develop in the passage of time it can never be certain that it will happen and if not both of them suffer in that relationship. Marriage in able to last for lifetime should have a strong foundation of love and affection and not by mere introduction of this is the man you will be marrying and you will spend the rest of your life with him and the rest is history and that was the sad part for you don't have bright outlook of what will your marriage be.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 07
Yes that's definitely the answer..Thanks for the comment. I appreciate it.
@catch_me (930)
• India
28 Feb 07
Some work out and some dont just like everything in life In a way they are cute, but when people are forced (yup, heared some really sad storys) then they are all bad. I dont wana get an arranged marriage, but on the other hand, it´s just as bad as blind date, people need to know when they get into stuff like this, that it´s just dating and no forcing into marriage and wedding the next week, then it´s all good!!
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• Philippines
5 Mar 07
Thanks for the comment..I appreciate it.
• Australia
28 Feb 07
Usually chinese and muslim people practise fixed or arranged marriages...For the royal families, they want their children to marry same royal blood to preserve the monarchy...they sometimes marry their own cousins. Others arrange their children's marriage for name, power and fame's sake. It is a tradition to some people, in my own opinion, I think everyone one of us should not be deprived of one's own freedom of choice.
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
Yes,I agree with you on that as well. Thanks for the comment.
@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
28 Feb 07
I am against fixed marriages. Maybe it is because fixed marriages are not common in my area of the world. But I believe people should be in love before they marry. Marriage is hard. It is even harder if you don't love your spouse. I give a high five to all the couples who married without love to begin with and made it work. They are some strong individuals.
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• Philippines
28 Feb 07
Yeah, for me marriage is a sacred bond between two people inlove...Thanks for the comment.
@raveena (1353)
• India
20 Mar 07
I am not every much for such type of marriages but our parents would always do what is best for us but being a parent I would never force my wishes on my child. I would try to make them understand if they are wrong but then it is their choice as it is their life after all.
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
Yes I agree with you as well.. It is always our childrens' choice we cannot choose for them..It is their own happiness that we should think about not their suffering. Thanks for the comment.
@rb_baguio (288)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
it would actually depends on the person...if the persons involved are in love...then that shouldnt be a problem...but if the problem sits in when one of the involved party loves someone else...
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• Philippines
28 Feb 07
Yep that's right. Thanks for the comment!
@Newbie11 (197)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Mine is a arranged marriage and I am very happy with my life.Though our parents arranged our marriage but we got the chance to meet each other before marriage.Arrange marriage was not a force to us.If I had any love my parents would have accepted that.
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
I am glad to hear your side on this..If you are given a chance to get to know the person well that is good...Maybe it came out good on your part...I guess if the child don't say anything then she is allowing it to happen to her. Anyways, I am glad yours turned out well.