Would you search for a father who abandoned you?

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A close friend of mine recently asked for my help in finding his father who abandoned them 28 years ago. He flew overseas to work to uplift their living conditions. Unfortunately, after some time, the phone calls just stopped. And after searching endless days and nights, she found out that her father re-married(I'm not sure if it will be accepted as her father is still married to her mother). The last phone call they received 15 years ago says that her father is so ashamed of what he did and doesn't have the courage to show his face ( I think he only said this to be able to give some reason to disappear). But even after all this time, her mother still loves him and stayed loyal:celebrates his birthdays and their anniversaries. Life had been rough since he left them. But after all this time and all that has happened, she still wants to look for him. She said she just wanted to know what it feels like to have a father, even if he doesn't want them anymore. I think she has to move on and deal with it but I really don't know what she feels for me to judge her. What would you have done if you were in her shoes?