How someone's advice can affect one's decision?
By maribel1218
@maribel1218 (3085)
Philippines
February 28, 2007 7:54am CST
Last night was a different night for me here in myLot anybody who knew me here and became my close friend for almost a month knew me as a woman who is brave and have positive outlook in life and with a happy married life for almost 12 years.
I never comment to any respond to my discussion "Should I stop believing on a happy marriage" because for a change I want to really read someones advice to that quote and I can say some of the advices really moves me and my faith in my marriage.
The problem was not a serious one it is just a misunderstanding NO 3rd party involve and the word that my husband utter over the phone is enough for me to forgive him because it was just a honest mistake it was that I was not used handling marriage problem because I hardly had one for 12 years.
I can say I was very thankful for all who responds to that discussion as for the moment they are 69 of them because thru that advices and different views I somehow realizes what is most important thing in a marriage life.
My sincere thanks to lauriefnp she is a real sincere friend,mipen,sigma77,byfaithonly,martianwoman,dellion,cremecheese,bluewings,everlasting,bosing143,keepinghome,weemam,kimlot,ernst111,maddysmommy,mssnow,raijin,feralwoman,donditiples,shoot54,sherry_navilla,samraf,pooksywooksy,perry2007,blue_fairee,vaselei and to all that I can't mentioned who contributed so much to this discussion.
I'm happy that even in such few words from me you came up with a sincere view about it and I was thankful for all of you and I can say someone's advice can really affect one's decision PROVIDED it is a GOOD ONE and the road it was leading is to happiness.
Thank you to all myLot friends for me you are all best responses and you are forever in my heart.
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17 responses
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
I was move by heartfelt advices and I really fell the sincerity in some of them and I was very thankful for that and for the friendship as well.
Thanks sigma77 you was been a good friend to me.
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@feralwoman (2199)
• Australia
28 Feb 07
You're more than welcome maribel, I hope that my advice was of some use to you! lol
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
yes I really appreciate your advice feralwoman and your friendship too!! thanks for everything.
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@dellion (6698)
• Malaysia
28 Feb 07
Hi maribel, glad to see that you were back into actions today:)Do happy to know that it was all back to normal today and am sure both of you will get even closer now:)As I had mention in your discussion that the commitments,trust, care and well communications and of course the love itself will truly the key elements to maintain a happy marriage:)
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
thanks dellion! I really was moved with some of the advices last night that's why I didn't really respond but try to analyze and read it and that made me feel lighter and we ended up to a good talk over the phone with my husband that's why I was so happy to have some good friend's like you here who is always ready to give their piece of good advice. thanks my friend.
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
that was okay weemam! I just really want to hear some advices and opinion last night to straighten my faith to my marriage and that help me a lot and made me easier to understand my husband little mistake I really was not use of having a marriage problem that's why I get very emotional even I was a brave woman.
thanks weemam for your friendship I really appreciate it.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
No need to thank me ate!;) That's just one of the main reasons why we are here.. to help each other. We are just like one big happy family here, a community made of international members that are ready to lend a help to each and everyone of us. I just wish that your pain has been eased, and that you settle both of your differences as soon as possible!;)
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
ha!ha!ha now I was the ate!! thanks raijin for your advice and that made me more at ease now with my married life and I can say it really helps when you can read someone's view and experience for you can really reflect yours.
thanks again my friend.
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
hi aretha! thanks for the advice in my discussion I just read it awhile ago and I do appreciate your sincere friendship to me. I'm so thankful I have few good friends here just like you aretha. Godbless.
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
28 Feb 07
Well on mylot I feel at least 90% of people have positive attitudes, that is really good and one can really depend on their advice for a complcated or simple problem of any kind. At times I really feel that mylot has brought sensible people together.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
28 Feb 07
I am so glad that you found good advice. As I say good communication is the key to a good marriage. I see that you and your husband communicated and now you are both happy. This is a good thing. Never give up on a happy marriage!
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@lauriefnp (5111)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Hi, Maribel!
I'm so glad to see that you're back and in good spirits again. Sometimes it helps to just take a step back from a situation as you did and just feel the emotions and deal with them. Sometimes we just need a whole day to cry and to get it all out of our system. I'm so glad to hear that you and your husband had a long talk and that everything is resolved. 12 years is nothing to give up on easily, and I'm sure that he knows that as much as you do. He would be a fool to do anything to push a sweetheart like you away! It has to be hard being separated like this all the time. Stay strong, and learn from this. Remember to trust in your marriage and your love for each other above all else.
Laurie
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
28 Feb 07
You know maribel when I read that discussion I could hardly believe it. It's so hard to advise people on the best thing to do when you're not sure of all the circumstances surrounding the problem. However, today all is well, and I wish you and your family very long and happy lives together.
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
Hi mipen! Last night was not my kind of night where tears are flowing and emotions are high sudden outburst of emotion, I don't really knew what to do and all I want is to hear advices and some experiences that marriage had a really happy ending.
My husband called up today and we have a heart to heart talk and that made me realize how important to have a open heart to listen and understand.
I can say I'm a very brave woman but there are certain things in life that needs more than being brave but being more patient and understanding.
thanks mipen for being a good friend to me, I really value our friendship.
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@bosing143c (564)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
it is always a privilege to be of service to a sincere friend like you are. keep it up my friend, an obstacle course is a way of building up patience, stamina and willpower. And i also have read that there are four candles in our lifetime (marriage life included)and they are: peace, faith, love and hope. When the three candles, peace, faith and love are put out, it is hope which will rekindle peace and pass it on to faith and love. so my friend keep the hope always alive and everything will be alright...
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I don't know what to say except you are welcome, anytime, and I will keep you and your situation in my prayers.
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
thanks mssnow! I really appreciate your advice and I was thankful you are one of my friend.
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@bluewings (3857)
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28 Feb 07
Glad to know you are Back! and kicking again.You have some Awesome friends here on Mylot and you deserve Every single one of them.I think life is about being happy and making others happy and I also think that you know that art.It's only natural that whenever you need them you will find them around.Have a magical day! Take care.
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
hey buddy! thank you so much for the inspiring words from a bachelor like you don't worry I dont rate you negative for that posts ha!ha!ha! thank you so much.
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@bluewings (3857)
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28 Feb 07
You are kind ,lol.Thanks :-D Maybe be I will give you a chance some other time ,lol.Stay Happy!
@denden (802)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
if you want or need advices you are a openminded person because you are open to any ideas given by your freinds relative and it depends on you what advice would change your decisio and see to it that it will change for the better not for worst. so its up to you
@091185 (54)
• India
1 Mar 07
This is a common phenomenon that may occur to many of us. Others advice and sayings do affect our decision to some extent. In fact in most of the cases, we r completely influenced by what one says... But this thing to a large extent depends on individual to individual... If u have strong will and self confidence then u'll definitely not be influenced by anyone so easily. U will take time to beleive on anyone.
But we should be strong enough to not let our decisions affected by anyone like that. We should ourselves be responsible for what we do and what we get, that will give us satisfaction and happiness.
@Starflames (261)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I am just very happy that it all worked out for you. Praise God!
