finding out

@galatea (686)
Philippines
February 28, 2007 8:44am CST
One Christmas day my father introduced my to my baby sister. I accepted her and I have always been civil with her mom (God knows what I really feel about her). Years later, while I was attending a board meeting, my father's boss casually told me that I had about 5 more siblings, all from different women. I cried etc etc. So after the crying and the etc's, I just thought I was still lucky to be the first born. At least my parents still got married, making me legitimate, even if they never got together. I wish I can get to know my other siblings. Maybe I should put up an ad someday, when I'm ready.
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yanjiaren
@yanjiaren (9031)
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28 Feb 07
That's a wonderful and very brave thing to do.Ify you can transcend all the hurt and little bit of jealousy you feel and get to know your lovely siblings they will really look to you as a good role model in their lives. It is not your burden or fault your father 'misbehaved' for whatever reason. These kids, like you are innocent and the best thing you all can do is give ach other love and support. Loving your siblings does not in any way mean betraying your mum. Your love for you mum is paramount and with this love you can teach your siblings great things. Good luck and let us know how things develope..
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galatea
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
hi again! this is your second time to respond to my discussion. thanks :) anyway, i don't hink my father even knows where these kids are. so i guess i have to find then someday, when im ready. when i can afford to treat them to one day of bonding. im a bit excited. i could take them to an amusement park. would be so fun. i really love kids and knowing that I have a lot of siblings... well... it posts a lot of possibilities :)
milagre
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
28 Feb 07
I have a daughter from a marriage and a son from my matte with whom im not married but with whom i am for several years, i dont consider my son less then my daughter just because she had born from a marriage and my son did not. My son is as much legitime as my daughter. You just should cry for never had met and never had knowing you sibilings and not because they are in this world and because they belong to your family. they are your blood too and they didnt committed any fault. You can be shocked with your father's way of living but i think you are a bit offensive when you say your parents made you legitime by getting married, meaning that all the others that had born out of marriage are less then you because of it. Have you ever thought your parents got married but they never got together, so they never loved each other. Is marriage more important then love?
galatea
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
it's not my intention to judge my parents, their decisions and how they chose to live their lives. they are just like everyone else who sin, make mistakes, get hurt, and fail. im glad i dont have perfect parents because i am certainly not a perfect daughter. all i ask of my parents is to live as long as they can so we can share more memories together. and i'm not delineating the legitimacy of my other siblings. im just stating facts. i've been volunteering in orphanages for a long time now and if i can love children im not related to, how can i not love those of my own blood? all i wish is to get to know them so we can share our lives, no matter how hard, sad, or difficult it is. children's smiles never fail to keep my heart warm. thanks you very much for sharing you life story :)