The place where do you want to go to wed.

You do what you think is right, it is your wedding day, not anyone else's, if they dont like what you have planned then they should not come. It doesnt matter who gets married, you'll always have one parent or another causing a problem, then you'll have other family members, then comes the friends. You will also get told that if you invite one person, that person complaining will not come. You'll be told where to get married, where to have your reception, what food to serve, where you should shower and also what colour underwear you should wear... Unfortunately its a part of getting married, people forget its your's and your partners day, not there's and that they are invited as guests to help celebrate your day. My then future father-in-law told me, that if I invited his ex wife, my husband-to-be's mother, then he would not go. I didnt let this upset me, I just simply told him politely but firmly, he was welcomed to come, but I was not going to not invite anyone because of him or anyone else. He didnt come, but thats his problem, he missed out on seeing his only son getting married and he now admits he was foolish. I was critisised for wanting to marry in a Catholic Church, some family members were Catholic others were Salvation Army and others Christian. Both my husband and I are Catholic, but I was brought up in the Salvation Army Church, we decided not to have a garden wedding like the majority wanted, and although some guest said if we did marry there, they wouldnt attend, they all turned up to join us on our day. I had all sorts of advise, good and extremely bad. I had many people threaten me that they wouldnt come. I didnt care, it was my day not theirs and I hope you'll find it in your heart to do what is right for you no matter who it upsets.