Is there anything else to discriminate against?

Arlington, Texas
February 28, 2007 2:11pm CST
It seems as if our society today is finding more and more reasons to hate or dislike each other. A person is too fat or too skinny, too ugly or too pretty, don't smell nice or smells heavenly, or the topic I want to bring up....too young to be a mom or too old to be a mom. I use to go to alot of parenting chat rooms and when I tell them my age they automatically asume that I must be some kind of tramp or that I am too immature or something because I have 2 kids. Although I am a married woman and my kids have the same father. Do you feel discriminated against because you are a younger mom, or older mom? I stand on my own two feet and I feel like it isn't fair to discriminate against a person just because of their age. I graduated high school when I was 16 and got my chef's certification, but they don't seem to look at that at all. By the way I am 20 years old, soon to be 21 June 28, 2007. I am happily married and my daughter is almost 19mths and my son just turned a month old. To young moms, do you think that alot of older moms discriminate against you and why and to the older moms do you feel like u are being discriminated against by younger moms and why. Just wanted to c what yall thought. Let me know.
3 responses
@mommycrat (148)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I am 19 and have a five month old and we are open to another at anytime. I usually don't tell my age..in fact, I haven't told any of the mothers in my area, as far as I can remember. I did have problems at the local hospital, though, with them being incredibly condescending with me when I was inquiring about natural birth. I don't know exactly what it was about, but I suspect it was age. A lot of "hon" and "sweetheart" in that tone that makes you feel 5 years old and 3 feet tall. I've learned to just laugh it off..it's ironic that people are immature enough to make that kind of judgment about maturity.
• Arlington, Texas
28 Feb 07
I was 18 and 4mths when I got pregnant with my daughter, Anaya, and I had her when I was 19 and 2mths. I got pregnant with my son one month before I turned 20 and had him 5wks ago. I got married when I was 20 also. Not cause of the kids, but because we were engaged for 2 years and I thought it about time. And I think you sound very mature, not only for being a 19 year old, but for being a person period. It's time to break that age barrier.
@kittles (156)
28 Feb 07
I'm 19 nearly 20 and I'm expecting a baby very soon- and quite honestly fed up of people (normal people who talk to me, midwives, doctors) seeing my age and commenting on oh how young I am etc etc and basically implying there's something wrong. I am getting married in June to the father and I think Im not too young, I'm not even a teenager anymore (soon lol how time flys!) I even had some complete stranger in a shop (I was working there) come up to me and say "Oh how old are you? You barely look 16!" and giving me a look that showed she disaproved. I just felt like slapping her across the face or something because I'm fed up of it! (I did manage to calmly say "Actually I'm nearly 20 thank you" but it was though gritted teeth lol) I'm not sure why I have to be in my early 30s to be considered a "normal" age to be a mother when body wise I've heard reports say it's 18yrs~23yrs that's prime time to have children...
• Arlington, Texas
28 Feb 07
Gurl U R right on point. I totally feel you. I don't even think it really should matter if we are married or not. They don't know our life experiences and don't know how mature we are. You can be 47 years old an be as immature as a 16 year old. Its the heart and soul of the person that counts, not their age. Great comment Kittles!
@irisheyes (4370)
• United States
28 Feb 07
Wow, you've really put your life together well for womeone so young. That's certainly not something to be criticized for. Unfortunaely, there are just a lot of judgemental people out there. Most of them are not too happy with there life and they vent by criticizing and discriminating against others. I call them "smoke screen" folks because they try so hard to focus on the perceived faults of others as a way to keep attention away from their own faults.
• Arlington, Texas
28 Feb 07
Thank you. I like that terminology. "Smoke Screen People". Imma have to use that one. And I totally agree with you on that one.