People, Rudeness Why?

I totally agree with you. Unfortunately there is a lot of ignorance pertaining to disabilities and not everyone is aware of the varying degrees of deblitating illnesses. Never the less there is no need for outright rudeness and on no account should that man have retorted like that to the other disabled person. It was totally avoidable.

i totally agree with you... handicapped doesn't mean just externally but can also be something internal that you can't see... and yes, people tend to judge just by their eyes and didn't bother to look further into something that they can't see... that is the problem that we are facing nowadays everywhere which i think is very unfortunate...

I can't believe that they would fight over something like that. That was very rude of the other person to say he doesn't look handicapped. What has the world come to

Most people wouldn't think I was handicapped but I have the placard and use it with great gusto. YOu can't just send away for them out of a catalogue. YOur doctor has to write the division of motor vehicles so people who have them have qualfied based on their doctor's assesment. Personally, I can't wait for someone to pop off at me when I use my placard. I will gladly take out my cell phone and call the police for them to have a little talk....LOL

I totally agree with you. I have seen people a lot that don't "look" handicapped, but you can't always judge by that. Of course there is abuse being made, but it's not up to us to make that call. The authorities need to get more involved and find out who is abusing and who isn't. I have a great aunt who is handicapped, but to see her, you would just think she is old and decrepite. She is severly diabetic and she has major seizures and small strokes all the time. She doesn't drive at all, but her husband will once in a while. And, like i said, if you looked at either of them, they look like just old people, but she is very handicapped.

I want to Thank You for this post. Here's my story. Summertime I'm not so bad unless of course my asthma is bad, but for the winter months here in Saskatchewan Canada we know winter like no one else. Needing knee replacements and after my heart attack it left me in a position where I can not vertually breath in real cold wind and the doctor ordered me to apply for the handicapped plaque which I did and received. Very few of my friends if any until right now know I even have it, and that is because I do not use it unless I'm having a bad day and unfortunately I'd never be without it. I have to be able to go grocery shopping too. From the VERY bottom of my heart I THANK YOU for being so considerate and non judgmental. You are absolutely right you do not know other peoples pain. I would like to think these signs are only issued to those who really need them. I feel good knowing I had been approved by my regular doctor as well as two specialists and I also feel good about myself in not using it if I feel I'm able that day to go the extra little distance. Thank You Very Much...Take Care and Have A Great Day...

I know exactly what you mean , My youngest 26 has CP this is quite noticeable if he is rushing , but my husband has severe heart problems and he looks OK ,I have 2 disabled badges on my car , in saying this I have NEVER been questioned , I have a friend who has 2 autistic sons and because they look OK they are questioned all the time , A disability is always obvious , I do hate when able bodied park in a disabled space and I will make it obvious I am looking for their blue badge but I COULD NEVER confront them about it , xx

I agree. There are many reasons why someone would have a disability sign and it not be noticeable. Someone who has a hard time breathing. They look fine. Unless you see them out of breath. Some one with tumors growing inwards of their body. They look fine but have unseen medical problems.

I do agree with you for my hubby had to have such a sign that I put in window when we parked . He had gout so was hard for him to walk. My daughter wants me to get one on account of my knee swelling up if I walk to fast. BUt I think I should wait till I really need this sign for it is good for me to walk! I have seen people just park in handicap spots cause it is closer to the store that dont have the sign to put in the window they are the ones in the wrong. I fell like some one worse off than me needs those spots

I don't care who you are what you do for a living, if you haev a disablity and have a card or what not, you deserve to have the spot just as much as the one who has the wheel chair. Their are alot of people out there who can not get a wheel chair because they are too heavy or for what ever the reason or perhaps their disability does not require a wheelchair. Whos business is it any way, if the state considers you disbabled (and this is a long drawn out thing that costs money) what is it too them?? They need to keep their nose where it belongs otherwise it just might get caught in the rain and they will drown.. hee hee.

I do agree. Many people have internal conditions (congestive heart failure, etc.) and they couldn't possibly walk too far but still want to be able to get out to the store now and then as they are able. Still others who are in the early stages of MS or something similar may not outwardly show huge signs of it, but their muscle fatigue comes so very quickly and it brings on worse symptoms. I do not have a handicapped sticker and would not want one, but having severe asthma, I know what a horrible difficulty it was for me to walk great distances earlier this winter when we had the subzero temperatures. Several times by the time I got into the store, I was having such a bad attack that I had to go back to the car and head home. I do feel horrible for those in wheelchairs, but I also believe that there are many people NOT in wheelchairs who have an even worse time getting from the car to the store than those in wheelchairs. At least they usually have some assistance. I am glad many stores finally put in pregnancy parking places. About 18 years ago when I had my kids, I remember complaining that if it wasn't a temporary handicap, I don't know what was. Try being third-trimester pregnant with one, carrying a 1-year-old and a purse and a diaper bag, trying not to fall on ice or whatever, and juggling groceries as well on the way out.

i agree. in fact it is a good thought. i never thought this way. i agree that people are just rude fo rmo reason at times, and also for misunderstanding. adn we need more sensitivve people around. and people are too busy witrh themselves to think abotu the other person, esp on roads and with co-passengers...

People are fighting these days over the most unbelievable things. To argue over a parking spot is ridiculous - and to suggest that one guy isn't handicapped because he doesn't look it is insane! Handicaps aren't just on the outside, they're inside too. Some people need to realize that to be honest. If you have a handicapped sign in your car, you can guarantee that someone, somewhere will question it. However, you have a right to expect that its not going to be another handicapped person. I think this guy needs a reality check.

There are really people whose so narrow minded. Even though he isn't really that physically handicapped, why not give that person the space since he deserved it more than him. That's also why I hate it when I'm riding a train or bus, when there's an old lady/man and no one would let them sit. Nowadays people tend to not care about this things, for them as long as they are ok, they don't care anymore.

I agree, not all handicaps are visible, you can have a hanicap that is mental and no one knows unless they know you or ask you. You should not be so quick to judge people until you know the whole facts on the situation. As they say you cant judge a book by its cover and thats true with everything in life.

I'm not going to question whether or not someone is handicapped. My mother in law has a handicap sticker. She was involved an a car accident. Both her legs were broken. She had pins in her legs for a very long time. If were to see her parking in the handicap zone, you might think she was someone who wasn't handicapped because she loooks pretty agile. But I know, she only goes out on her goods days! She experiences a lot of pain in her legs. She may be able to get out of her car and walk around the store, but for the next couple of days she's in a lot of pain. She's not wheelchaired bound, but I know she is handicapped.

I can't believe that they would fight over something like that.. hmm... It was rude of the other people to say he / she doesn't look handicapped..

There are indeed many people who have legitimate handicaps even if they don't display any outward appearances of being handicapped, and certainly many people who aren't in a wheelchair either. I for one suffer with chronic pain, and arthritis. Some days it's all I can do to walk or stand and just because I don't have a wheelchair it doesn't mean I shouldn't be in those spots. In fact some days it's probably a lot harder for me struggling to get around than it would be for someone in a wheelchair. I know they also issue the handicap tags to people who have chronic heart or lung problems that prevents them from being able to walk very far. Lately I've also been getting a riding cart in some of the stores and it annoys me when I get some rather nasty looks while riding around in it. I only use it when the pain is so bad I wouldn't be able to get around the store any other way, and I really need to get some things.

ofcourse i agree with that that there are always people that will be rude and will not think of the other person and will think that someone is trying to cheat them i do not know why there are people like this but they are, i don't think that handic. people should go through what you saw there is a reason for putting special parking spots from handic. people i really don't have nothing more to say except that i hope this wont happen again but i thing i am a little bit naive..people ain't changing so fast..

If the government has deemed someone to be handicapped then they are given a permit. We, as society, are not here to judge who we deem as handicapped enough. That is a ridiculous concept! All too often, we seem to feel a certain entitlement to others ideals and lives. As long as someone isnt abusing the spots, they have just as much right to use the spot as someone with obvious handicaps.