Need help with stranger anxiety

United States
February 28, 2007 4:16pm CST
My baby is nine months old and has the worst case of stranger anxiety. He wont let anybody else hold him except for me or his father. He wont even let his grandmother hold him. He has been like this since he was four months old. Sometimes someone just talks to him or comes too close and he starts crying. I dont want him to be scared all the time.
5 responses
@rjbass (1422)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I have three small children all under 7 years old. My wife and I started taking each of them to different community center classes starting at 6 months old just so they could get used to being around other children their own age and adults. Now that they are a little bit older, they are fine socializing and meeting new people. Granted, we still make sure that they are cautious with strangers but they are not shy.
@rjbass (1422)
• United States
1 Mar 07
ooops, didn't mean to double post...sorry.
• United States
1 Mar 07
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• United States
1 Mar 07
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@rjbass (1422)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I have three small children all under 7 years old. My wife and I started taking each of them to different community center classes starting at 6 months old just so they could get used to being around other children their own age and adults. Now that they are a little bit older, they are fine socializing and meeting new people. Granted, we still make sure that they are cautious with strangers but they are not shy.
@mommycrat (148)
• United States
28 Feb 07
This is a totally normal phase that lots (if not all) babies go through. They are really paying attention to everything and noticing things they've not caught before. It can be quite overwhelming. They are familiar with mommy and daddy, though, and need them to help filter through all the new things. Hang in there, help show him all the new things and he'll pull through. : )
• United States
28 Feb 07
Thanks. Its just that I feel so bad for his grandma because I know it hurts her feelings when he still cries when she comes close. He sees her like once a week. Maybe that is not enough. Like I said he has been doing this since he was four months old already.
• United States
28 Feb 07
I hate to tell you that its normal. Some kids like yours and my baby sister are terrified of other people for a while, Others like my first son and his little girlfriend ( 1) arent. The things we did to help the kids who are scared adjust are relativly simple, but time consuming. You hold baby while other people sit near you and him. You understandably want gramma to be able to hold her grandson, and im sure gramma wants to hold him. So make sure you guys spend alot of time together while oyu hold baby, so he can get used to gramma. It might help. Thats what helped with my sister anyway.
• United States
28 Feb 07
Yea we have been doing that. I know he knows who she is, I guess maybe he is just picky. Thanks for the advice^^