When My Husband Proves His Love
@sunnypub (2128)
United States
February 28, 2007 10:17pm CST
Okay so I know that I have complained a lot about my husband here on MyLot, but I think I have also done a good job showing his good sides. A lot of people do wonder why I stay with him and why I love him, becuase we are so different, and he does have quite a few faults. But tonight, he did something for the 4th time since I've been with him, that just proves how much he loves me and how he would do anything for me. And I love him dearly for it.
About 7:30pm tonight I noticed my sister's cat lying on the floor. She was in horrible condition. I am not sure what what was wrong with her but I could tell, from past experience that she was suffering and she wouldn't make it through the night. She was barely breathing and couldn't even lift her head. I tried to give her water but she wouldn't even open her mouth to lick. Her time was limited.
My sister nor I could afford to take her to an emergency vet, so my husband being the wonderful man that he is, put her out of her misery. he has done this for 3 other pets of ours. I never ask how he does it, but I know that it is really hard on him and he would never do it for anyone else but me.
He even dug the grave and buried her. We will have a ceremony tomorrow, as we always do for our pets. Our pets are part of our family. I don't know how my husband does it because I couldn't do it, even knowing that the pet I love was suffering.
I know many people may not agree with it, but it is the humane thing to do and when you can't afford the vet, there really isn't much choice.
Regardless of how anyone else feels, I am just thankful that my husband loves me that much, and I love him for it.
I just wanted to share this.
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7 responses
@lauriefnp (5111)
• United States
3 Mar 07
I feel that a man's character is best revealed by how he treats his mother, children, and animals. In most cases, a man who loves animals and is kind and caring to them is a decent person, no matter what other annoying traits he has.
I'm sorry to hear about your sister's cat; I know how hard it is to watch a pet that you have loved get older and become sick. When they suffer, as she obviously was, the humane thing to do is to euthanasize them so that they are at peace. Although it must have been incredibly hard on your husband, he stepped up to the plate and did this out of love for you and for the cat. He's a good man, and you are lucky to have him.
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@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Yea he is a good man. I guess we all have our annoying traits but that is something we all live with. What is funny is that it seems like something like this always seem to come along when I am particularly annoyed at him. It is like I am being given signs to remind just how much I love and how great of a guy he is. Thanks for responding.
@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
3 Mar 07
It would take a very strong hearted person to put a pet out of it's misery when it was surffering so much. As for coming on here and talking about any relationship issues, there is nothing wrong with that. I think mylot is a good place to come and pour our hearts out without the worry of being judged (we don't know the poeple here anyways, right)? It's more convenient to come on here and ask for advice or just share your story with others when times are hard. When something good happens in the relationship, all we can really do is brag and advice isn't needed, that's why you don't see as much of that on here.
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@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Yea, it does take a certain kind of person to put a pet out of it's misery, and I am sad to say that I don't think I could do it. This is the 4th time my husband has done this, and I know it is hard on him but he does it for me, and I love him for it. I think I am going to try harder to share the good things because even though I don't need advice I think it is still nice for other people to read about and respond to. Thanks for responding.
@cherhost (1072)
• United States
3 Mar 07
Girl I think we all compalin about our husbands. This is a ggod place to vent because we are in the same boat. There are so many things that I can complain about right now. But he did good. Man my husband had a hard time putting our fish down the drain! But kudos to him and I am so glad you guys were there for your sister. She needed you guys.
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@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Yea, I guess it is human nature to complain about our significant others, and i am sure the men do it too. Being able to vent here at MyLot is one of the reasons I love the site. Thanks for responding.
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Awwwwww...I'm so sorry to hear about your sister's kitty. I am so glad your husband was there for you during this. I'm sure it was hard for him to do that. He definitely showed his caring nature. My husband is the same way. There is no way that I could bury my pets...it would be like burying my human children. I take that back...I did have to bury one of my kitties last year because the neighbor ran her over and killed her. I ended up calling hubby at work and he had to calm me down--it took about 15 minutes. Regardless of the problems you and your man have gone through, there is always something that will come about that will strengthen your love. Thank you for posting this...it is very touching.
@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
1 Mar 07
It is a sad situation. I just can't stand to see animals suffer. I know this was hard on my husband, but I am so grateful that he is willing to do these things for me. I am also grateful that I found the cat instead of my sister. Things like this do strenghten our love. There is no doubt that we love each other, it is just sometimes people wonder why. I know it is because we see these sides of each other that others don't see. Thank you for responding.
@bluewings (3857)
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1 Mar 07
You have such a caring and a strong husband.It's hard to ask something like this from someone,if he doesn't himself feel the excruciating pain the cat might have gone through.You are lucky that he understands you so well that you don't have to put it to words for him to realise you are disturbed.It must be loving and staying with each other for a long time that people can sense how their spouse feels about something.I am sorry about it and glad that you had his support during it.
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@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Its true, we do know each other well, as we have been friends for just about 25 years and have been together for almost 14 years. I know it is really hard for him to do that but he does it without me having to ask. He is a wonderful man. Thanks for responding.
@sandeep_2991984 (675)
• India
1 Mar 07
i can understan your feeling. i have gone throuhg with the same feeling when my dog left me. you are right that every person is different from the other. i respect you love for your husband and i think ur husband loves u so much. where there is love there is fight and love shows most when there is fight.
@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I agree with you about there being love when there is fight. We certainly have our issues but in times of need we are right there for each other, and that is what keeps us strong. Thanks for responding.
@HeavenUnaware (1757)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I'm so sorry to hear about your sisters cat. :[
I hate seeing animals in any sort of pain, it just breaks my heart. I'm glad your husband was able to be there for you when you needed him. My husband has had to bury more than one of our pets and I know it's hard for him but he does it so it won't be hard for me.
I think all marriages have problems - I know my has plenty - but we grow stronger with each issue we overcome and I wouldn't have it any other way. I hope you and your husband's marriage lasts forever.
@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
9 Mar 07
Yea it just breaks my heart to see animals suffer and I am so lucky that my husband is there for me to take care of things. I agree that the problems we face in our marriage just make us stronger. Thanks for responding.
