secrets. do you share it with others?
March 1, 2007 12:51am CST
yes i do share my secrets... but i don't share the secrets my friends tell. my so called best friend cheated me on that. i told her a secret that was supposedly be between us. it was about our friendship. later, she told everybody that i am obsessed to her that i love her very much and that makes me a t-bird. the reasin i like her so much coz my younger sisters are away from me living far from me... then everybody looks at me with malice and no one dared to talk to me. i confronted my friend but she said that's how i interpreted it. i told her i was so stupid to tell her my family problems making stories out of the problems. i never made friends with her again, she said sorry yes and told others what she said wasn't true about me. but i never gave her a chance. was it ok? i felt real good then.
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8 Mar 07
I also keep secrets and in fact all my friends and relatives share their problems with me and I never pass whatever they tell me to others. Before me my mom enjoyed that confidence now after her its me. so many times you do come in contact with nasty people but its their loss at loosing you and never yours. I have a sister in law who is bad mouthing me everywhere but I have told everyone that they know her for past one year and me they have known for past fourteen years its up to them to decide who they trust and I am not giving explanations to anyone. some people do get on your nerves don't they. Only consolation is I never trusted her so I always took my in laws in to confidence whenever I spoke with her before she got married so at least I have that front cleared, which could have led to a lot of trouble.
6 Mar 07
No, i do n't share my personal secrets with anyone as i believe that it does n't take time to change a friend into enemy. Although i know that we feel light ourself when we share our sorrows with someone else yet it doubles our sorrows when we come to know that our the best friend has told our all secrests to everyone. So, i listen to friends secrets and do n't spread them but i do n't share my secrets with anyone. I seldom share them.
6 Mar 07
i dnt share my secrets wid anyone else......neither do i giveout ny secrets which is shared wid me.Im a very closed loop person i have my own circle of frens.Most of them are family member so never found a reason for sharin anythin wid anyone
5 Mar 07
Poor you. But of course, we all are learning by our own mistakes. I know, it hurts very badly when someone you trusted is cheating you and is misusing your trust. I have learned my own lessons also, long ago, and it made me very carefully to choose, what I'm telling to the others. Of course you can't trust your (former?) friend anymore. But let's observe the story from another point of view. If your other friends understand she lied about you, she may loose trust by them also. I once had a colleague who always had something bad to say about everyone. Some were fat, some were too thin, and the most of people she knew were plain idiots to her. She also wasn't able to keep any secret. And guess what happened? Everybody was thinking, what this person may talk about them, when they aren't around... And she lost all friends, and no one trusted her anymore. It may well happen to your untrue friend too, and it would be a right punishment to her!
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5 Mar 07
I used to when I was a school girl. But now of course i am so secretive. Also, I can keep secrets very well. Yours is a sour experience. But fianne, dont you think she sometimes might have truly misunderstood you? I dont know, if she said sorry and accept that she did a wrong thing plus if she told the others as well, I feel its ok to give her another chance. After all, we are all humans and tend to make mistakes. Good luck.
1 Mar 07
i do think you did the right thing...if you lose your faith in someone there is no bad thing to do that risk again....I think she did a very bad thing...one of the worst a friend can do...as myself is concerned, there was a time I thought confidence was the best sign of friendship I could give to my beloved friends..I regarded it as a present..if I open my heart to you, you will understand how important and precious you are for me...well I was so hurt and such a bad way that now I think I am never having the courage to do this again...friends either didn't keep the secret or made a fun of my feelings...seeing that my feelings are the most precious part of me, I don't want people to underevaluate them...now I think that nobody deserves such thing like knowing the complete truth about me..I am definitely decided not to share my heart again with anyone...I mean not the very true part of me...I am sorry for this but it is a way to protect me against people like your friend...I met lots of them unfortunately!!!
1 Mar 07
I think we mature as we grow up, and this is in regard to secrets. I could always keep important secrets, and still can, but I was not so good with the little secrets. I couldn't wait to tell my friends. Now I have learnt it is best to keep my mouth shut.
1 Mar 07
You have done the right thing dear dont worry....secrets are meant to be kept.....if someone doesnt respect it he/she is not worth to be a friend...be careful the next time....there are some so called friends who hurt u the most....
1 Mar 07
i do share secrets but only with my girlfriend because i know i can trust her with them. I did once upon a time share my secrets with my best mate, but every time i told him something he would tell everyone else so i stopped telling him secrets of mine
1 Mar 07
i do share my secrets in my best of friends.we have a good conversation telling our own different secrets.and we have this rule that nobody would know about our crazy and funny secrets.until now we kept our promises that secret is a secret.thats all.thanks!