is your partner a 'low-talker'?
By joyderful1
@joyderful1 (94)
Singapore
March 1, 2007 6:16pm CST
Does anyone here have a partner who is a low-talker? Mine doesn't initiate any kind of social talk, if he can help it. If he does say anything, it's cliched, which is fine wtih me. I'm not expecting him to be whom he's not. I know myself well. I like a 'deep' conversation. I don't want to push him to do anything he doesn't like to do. So I have girlfriends whom I talk 'deep' stuff about life with. What do you do if your friend or partner is a low-talker?
5 responses
@melissacus (441)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Thankfully my boyfriend is also my bestfriend and we talk a lot. I don't know what I would do if he wasn't a very talkative person. I would probably just talk to my sisters, mom, or my other close friends. Girls need other girls to talk to.
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@allshookup (598)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I find this a surprise, I thought that your partner would be the person you talked deepest to, most :) But no I don't find anything wrong with that as long as you are comfortable with that fact and can balance your needs elsewhere, with your girlfriends :)
@joyderful1 (94)
• Singapore
23 Mar 07
He isn't comfortable with words. I don't want to change him. I just allow him to be himself. That way if he says anything more than he usually does, that's a plus for me. For him too, since he will find I am not a threat to his dislike for words.
We are all 'wired' differently; I allow for our differences in order that he may demonstrate more of himself to me; rather than snub the differences which might turn him back into himself.
:)
@Cephoozee (373)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Gratefully, the shift from normal conversation to a deep discussion about life and all its mysteries is seamless when I talk with my girlfriend, and I'm not afraid of talking to her about things very abstract which I often do from time to time, because I know she'll at least humor me and listen to what I have to day. She's great ^.^
@crimsonblues (1191)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I tend to get annoyed, he gets aggravated and we fight.. haha Otherwise find someone else to talk to because if he isnt down for a deep conversation its probably never goign to happen
