Going Up In Smoke

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A friend is of mine has been calling a guy her boyfriend for about six years now and he really believes that he is her boyfriend. They even where wedding rings declaring their love for each other. The problem is that she says that she is only using him for his money. I know for a fact that she is seeing someone else. She claims that her boyfriend has herpes and that is why she wont sleep with him. So their relationship is not much more than a friendship. She has no respect for him and looks down on him. She calls him stupid and a bum to his face, even though he has way more money than her, being that he is a veteran. He has a terrible smoking habit and has to have one almost every half hour or less. Because he realizes that he smokes to much, he will not buy his own cigarettes. He either buys them for a quarter from his friends and begs her for one. Most of the time she will only share one with him and she is constantly complaining that he wont buy his own. He use to buy the cigarettes for both of them until she started insisting that she put away money from his check every month to get a car. What he gets to keep runs out quickly after taking care of his bills. One of which is paying her an allowance of $30-$45 a month just for being her. Whenever she needs something he gives her the money to pay for it. He waits on her hand and foot and she almost completely controls him. Recently, she started really complaining to me about how she is tired of sharing her cigarettes with him, yet she expects him to share everything with her equally. I came up with some ideas, like him buying a carton, but he doesn't want to do that because he says he will smoke them to fast. So tonight I finally told her that maybe she should take her allowance and buy cigarettes for him. And she says, no that's my money that he gave me to spend on whatever I want. So I said, well since he does give you an allowance the least you could do is share cigarettes with him. She got totally upset with me and said it was none of my business. So I said if it is none of my business then don't talk to me about it any more because there is nothing else I can say to help and I am tired of hearing the same gripe over and over again. She constantly tells him (loudly) how she feels, but he just keeps on asking to share her cigarettes or begging for one for himself. I think she is wrong, what do you think?