Ever feel caught in the middle between family and partner?

Yes, I have been in the middle just like that. My husband now knows that my family is my family and always will be. No matter how he feels or gets along with them. That will not prevent me from having contact with them. If he has a problem with them. He takes it up with them. Not take it out on me.

Join the club... I was caught in family rivalry since the day I was born... between mother family and father family. Father family used me to get at mother family. At 19... I moved to the other side of the world to get away from them all... and it made no difference. They still getting me involve and will do until I die.

The only time that you should "feel" caught in the middle is when it involves you. Otherwize,,, And being the "meat" in the middle is good, thats the main part of the sandwich, you could be Lettuce, or even worse, pepper.

I understand you there! My stepfather(soon to be ex stepfather) hates my husband with a passion. He is forever telling me that my husband will never amount to anything, that he is worthless ect. The worst was when he said those things in front of my 2 year old. It caused a huge fight which resulted in me actually hitting him. But no matter his opinions he dosent need to voice them about my 2 year olds daddy in front of him! In return my husband dosent like my stepfather, mostly because of his attitude twords my husband and will often make remarks about him. I always make sure that my son is out of hearing range when my husband does this, as my son loves his papa too. I feel so torn all the time, because everyone is so mad at everyone else. I go to see my mom and her husband is complaing about mine, then i go home from visiting and my husband is complaining about hers! Its a terrible cycle... Ive just started agreeing or toning them out, because nothing i say is going to stop it..

My husband and my sister have hated each other from the very first. I thought as they got to know each other, things would get better. After all, they really are a lot a like. It just gets worse. Every time I speak to her on the phone, the first thing she says to me is "Are you ready for me to pick you up, yet?" She even talked to her counselor about how much she wanted me to leave my husband. He uses terrible language whenever he mentions her - I have demanded that he stop this time and again. No matter what either of us thinks of her behavior, she is still my little sister. They both try to put me in the middle and I just laugh at both of them. Hey, my husband will never be a sister to me and my sister will never be a husband to me. So, for me, to "choose sides" is ridiculous. As long as they don't fight each other and try to keep their nastiest remarks to themselves, I just ignore the two of them. After all, they are supposed to be adults. There's no law written that we all have to like each other. They are barely civil and that's good enough for me.