Is it really necessary to always wear your ring?
By joanana
@joanana (770)
United States
March 2, 2007 5:31pm CST
I want to pose a question to you all. A friend of mine was recently berrated by another friend for removing her engagement ring and not wearing it for a couple of days straight. She argued that the action meant nothing and that if she wanted to take the ring off and not wear it she could. There was a heated argument between the two and it made me wonder, what's the big deal?Personally I believe that the ring, whether it is an engagement ring or a wedding band is just the materialistic reminder of your commitment. It has no bearings on your feelings and fidelity to the person so the removal of said ring shouldn't mean a thing.
If my friend had removed the ring so people would think she was single, then I could understand the discourse, however she doesn't much care for jewlery and works in a kitchen. For her the ring is a hindrance and she has a great risk of losing or damaging it. So why not remove it?
What are your thoughts on this? Was she in the right or wrong?
3 responses
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
2 Mar 07
I do think we should wear our wedding rings, not because it's gold or diamond, but because the rings are the sign of the union blessed by God. Of course if you work in a place where rings and jewellery will only hinder you, then by all means don't wear them. I once worked in a manufacturing plant where jewellery and rings are not allowed and so people don't wear them. But on other occassions we wear them. At home I don't wear them since I clean the house and do laundry myself.
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@joanana (770)
• United States
3 Mar 07
But what if you're not religious or don't believe in a God per say? What if your marriage is going to be or was conducted by a judge, would it then be justifiable to not wear your ring since it's not blessed by a holy figure? I'm just curious as to what your take would be on that :)
Judging by your response I'd have to say she was likely in the right then. I know she's been putting in extra hours lately to help save for the wedding and prior to the anouncement she was working 12hr shifts. So for the majority of the day she can't really wear it and if she's at home I doubt she'd be wanting to wear it then either while doing chores, showering, or sleeping.
Thank you for your input!
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
3 Mar 07
Even if you are not religious, don't you get the ring inserted in your finger by the groom in front of the judge also? It's still a symbol of reunion then, unless you don't wear any ring at all on your wedding day then you wear it only as jewelry, no special meaning.
In your friend's case, if she doesn't go around telling everybody that she is single and start flirting, I guess it's OK if she doesn't want to wear it. I wouldn't do that but then again as you said she is not jewelry person and it's her ring so she could do what she wants with it.
I hope she means well, by not wearing it outside work.
@tammyr (5945)
• Etowah, Tennessee
2 Mar 07
I agree with you. If she removes it because of the chance of it being damaged or lost she really should do so. If it is to 'fool' others then she would be in the wrong. I see nothing wrong with removing jewelry to protect it from harm, it is better than not caring enough to do so. I am curious as to why she left it off for a couple of days, but I know I have forgotten to put mine back on and then freaked when I realized I had not.
@joanana (770)
• United States
3 Mar 07
She's not much for jewlery of any kind and so the ring sometimes bothers her. I've seen sit down and just start fiddling with it back and forth, taking it off and rubbing her hands, then putting it back on. lol I just think she's having a hard time getting used to the idea of wearing jewlery of any kind. Until her engagement I had never even seen her wear earrings, the most I've seen her wear is a watch. More than likely since it just gets in her way she left it off and didn't remember to put it back on since she normally wouldn't have worn one.
@cami_love (87)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I do think it is up to her if she wants to wear the ring. If you don't normally wear rings, they can bug the heck out of you and who wants that kind of annoyance. As long as she is true to her commitment, then there shouldn't be a problem. Also, if you can damage the ring, or if the ring could cause damage to your finger in your job, then it is best to leave it at home.
