following your partner to see if they are cheating!!!!!!!!ever done this?

If it ever reaches that stage for me,I would much prefer having an open conversation about it.If I can trust what she believes then I'd not follow her around and if I don't trust her I would tell her so.After the discussion if I still feel like tailing her around to find the truth then trust is obviously out of the relationship.In that case I wouldn't like to know anymore coz it would be pointless.

Learning to trust each other is never an overnight project. Start with small opportunities to grow closer together and build from there. If you can rebuild trust in smaller situations, you'll have good odds of eventually rebuilding full relationship trust.