Childless couples

family? - mother, father - without a child
Philippines
March 3, 2007 2:12pm CST
This is an extremely sensitive issue.. but i know of some married couples who do not have a child - by choice or not. I know of some who intentionally do not want to have a child which is ok, but for those who want to but couldn't, how are you supposed to take this? How can you cope with the situation? Can the 2 people - wife and husband be called a family?
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7 responses
@gurl976 (48)
• United States
3 Mar 07
Husband and wife is family. When you get married, that is your new family. If you want kids and can't have kids - try and adopt. There are sooo many unwanted children in the world, and if you are a loving couple who wants children, why not adpot a child
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
we've been wanting and praying for a child since last year but God has not given us this gift yet, how do we cope? we do nothing! because honestly I don't think it's a big deal for us now, and we also discuss the idea of adopting if ever we can't have a child of our own,although it's too early for us to say-we've only been married for 11 months now. For now, we enjoy each other and we keep on praying.
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• United States
3 Mar 07
you know what i hear everyday that lots of woman have trouble getting pregnant. I recently had a friend who had a miscarriage and its sad and horrible. I have 2 children myself and one on the way and it is really easy for me and my husband to get pregnant i dont think that i could ever understand someones pain of not being able to have a child. But i do know that there are lots of options besides adoption invetro fertilization, having a surrogate mother. if your husband has the problem you can have a sperm donor. and as for a husband and a wife they are a family but without the option of having a child they dont feel complete as a "family" and probably would have issues with considering themselves a "family".
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
4 Mar 07
We are childless and I know many couples here are also childless. I don't feel anything wrong with it, although if I could have one it would be good. Our life has been hectic for the last 3 years we don't always have time to talk about having kids around. One thing I know we have too many financial obligations right now that the thought of having kids adds pressure to it. Both of us send money home for our parents and in my case I have two people in my family that depend on me financially. My husband and I love each other and share the burden together. I don't really care what others call us.
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@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
3 Mar 07
I think a man and woman can be a family. I have to thank God I have never had that problem. You see I have tree kids and love them everyone. I couldn't imagine life with out them.
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• United States
4 Mar 07
I personally believe that whe two people become married they are a family. I feel really bad for couples that are not able to have children and especially for the ones who don't have the money to adopt, seems how it is super expensive. I really don't know how I would cope if I was in that situation, I think that I would be very depressed about it and I don't really know how it would ever go away seems how there are always pregnant women walking around and children practically every place you go. I know a few women who are not able to have children and it has affected who they are as a person, so sad- they aren't the upbeat happy people that they use to be =( i wish there was a miracle pill for infertile couples to take.
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@ethanmama (1745)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
When a man and a woman get married, they are already forming a new family, whether or not they have kids. They promise to love and cherish each other in sickness and in health....that's what family's all about. I personally consider children blessings and would like to have at least another one (I have 1 son) but not everyody are blessed and may have difficulty having children. Or they may not want children at all. We could start a discussion on the pros and cons of having children or not, and of adopting or not. But in the end, the couple IS family, they make such decisions, and other major decisions, together.