How would this make you feel?
March 3, 2007 2:41pm CST
My in-laws still are in contact with one of my husbands old girlfriends, Heidi. Heidi is successful and I guess owns her own business. Whenever they hear from her or get a call, they tell my husband and they say "Why don't you give her a ring?" and they will toss the paper with her new number on it towards him. They do this right in front of me. They will say things like "She is doing good, she just got a divorce or she just bought a house, here's her new number...". I feel insulted when they do this. As if they are trying to encourage him to start up another relationship with her. When this happens, I act like, "Yes Rick, you should call and see how she is? Aren't you curious?" He never has acted upon it, not once. How would this make you feel? Like they miss her and you don't matter? My sister in law just recently went to her high school reunion, 20 years, She informed Rick and I both that Heidi has not aged well at all. This gave me a little bit of satisfaction! I think I'm terrible for thinking like that though!
4 people like this
• United Kingdom
4 Mar 07
Well I have to say that I would be very upset about it and I don't think it is fair or nice of them to do this to you. You are reacting the right way though, but your Husband is probably fed up with it to as you say he has never reacted on it. Maybe he wants to tell his Parents straight that he is not interested and that he does not want her new Number and he does not want to contact her.
• United States
4 Mar 07
You have to be secure with yourself and with your relationship. You are the woman he chose! Not her. I truly believe that everything in this life is meant to teach us something. Know you are loved by Rick, you are happy in your marriage and you share a special relationship. Take the higher road, don't let what the in lase are doing bring down your happiness.
4 Mar 07
I would be really upset if this happened to me. Most in-laws have some problems but this seems really horrible. I don't blame you for feeling happy that the girl hasn't aged well, but remember that it probably isn't her who is trying to get your husband to contact her, its probably his parents pushing it.
3 Mar 07
i think what you're feeling is reasonable.. they shouldnt do that.. even if they mean well and just miss her as an ex-girlfriend of your husband.. but doing it right in front of you is an insult.. but at least your husband has not acted on it.. it shows that he has eyes only for you.. hey all of us have their own insecurities... yours is definitely a natural reaction.. :) but just trust your husband and his feelings for you..:)
3 Mar 07
Think it's easy to understand why you feel the way you do but looking at it if there are no real problems between you and you're in-laws then they probably don't even realise that they are upsetting you! I stayed friends with my ex-boyfriends family years ago and when I had my first child 8 years later they were the ones who sent gifts and champagne! I think if a couple has split up on civil terms then why should their parents lose their offsprings ex's friendship or vice versa! \if they were doing this behind your back then it would probably concern me more and anyway your husband doesn't seem too interested so why let yourself get upset? Smile and think how much they must trust you to talk about Heidi in front of you!