Could You Marry A Girl That Didn't Have A Father?

@ipisman (144)
Philippines
March 3, 2007 11:48pm CST
I Don't Think I Could...too Many Emotional Problems.. pretty unstable people...i need a strong minded person that can take the hits in life.
6 responses
• United States
4 Mar 07
The irony of what you just said is that most girls who have grown up with an absent parent are very strong minded people who can take more hits in life than most people who've grown up with both parents. Take it from someone who's father was absent from her life most of the time. I don't know of many people who can take as many "hits" as I have and still come out swinging. Most of my friends have grown up in households with just one parent, their mom, and have turned out great! We're not unstable emotionally and when we put our minds to something, you better bet it's going to get done. Everyone has some sort of emotional baggage. If you can't marry a person who hasn't had a father present during their upbringing then you might as well not marry a person who was raped (not that you'd know if they didn't tell you), or who has children from a previous marriage, or even someone who didn't go to college or make it through high school. To say that not having a father present during their upbringing makes a person "unstable" and unable to take the "hits in life" is pretty judgemental and for the most part untrue. You might want to check yourself on why you feel that way. One experiance with one person doesn't count as a norm for the whole population raised with just a mom. It's normally the people who have had a rough upbringing that can cope with real life better than ones who have been coddled all the way.
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
hi taramaureen! i agree with you. for me your answer's the best =)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Hi to you and thanks!
@carlysle (271)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
not all people cope up with the same problems.. there are a lot of people who are stable enough even if they grew up without fathers.. maybe you had a bad experience with a grl that didnot have a father??? thats y you are staying away from them??
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
well at least we do not need to confuse you with facts.It appears you already have your mind made up and any thing said would be falling on deaf ears. But for the people that respond to this post I would say, how wrong this assumption is, Because when a girl has grown up with out a father she is never dependent on a man for any thing. This does make her stronger and better, but it also makes her aware of the over protective and dominating men out there, and will never put up with their macho ways
• Canada
4 Mar 07
Just because a girl doesn't have a father doesn't mean she doesn't have a strong mind. I have a father, but he verbally and emotionally abused me. I took what I learned from that experience, and decided to be the best I could be in life, instead of turning around and abusing someone else the same wa. People are who they are because of who they are, not because of the type of families they come from.
• United States
4 Mar 07
Sounds as though you already had an experience with one of these girls. That's where the problem is. It's only one girl. I don't care if a woman is fatherless, motherless or if she was born by some sort of space alien. If she is indeed a person of good sound character and loves me for who I am, then nothing more needs to be said. I can understand that you don't want the kind of girl you described. Neither would I but that doesn't mean all girls who are fatherless are this way. Wouldn't you agree anyone can have those character flaws, father or not. ‹(°¿°)›
@neon2000 (2758)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
WHy not? If you truly love the person, you can accept who she is and her background even if he has no father because you love her. True love doesn't see what is bad in the person but the good about her.