Do You Go Without So That Your Children Can Have What They Want?

I think I always sacrifice my wants for my children's. Now my children are not spoiled, even close to it. I try to teach my children that material things are not what's important in life but once in awhile it is nice to buy things for ourselves. Our family makes an okay living but we do sometimes live check by check. So when we do have extra money my husband alot of times will tell me to go buy myself some outfits our something nice for myself and I will always say no because I'm always thinking about something I wanted to buy for the kids next time I had that extra money. Whether it be an extra outfit for them, even if they really didn't need it, but I'm sure could use it soon, or something they've been asking for, for a while. So yes, most of the time my kids come first before I think of buying for myself.

I go without buying for me all the time in preference to buying something for my children that I know they want or that I think they will like . I am much happier giving then buying for myself anyway and love to see the look on there face when I give them something I know they had their heart so set on . I know some consider this to be spoiling a child as my mother gets mad at me different times saying that my children don't need all that they have which is true but they are only young once and I want to be able to do all I can for them now as one day they will grow up and have there own families and I would like them to look back at there childhood with fond memories weather it was something they recieved or something fun that we did together or just something that makes a family memorable .

I always thought that this was a natural part of being a parent ; ) When I decided to become a parent, I also made the decision to put them first ALWAYS. I probably buy myself a new pair of shoes every 6-7 years because my kids need them twice a year. Luckily, I'm very easily contented. I am happy with what I have, so it doesn't feel all that sacrificial.

Well, my birthday is in August, My Oldest's birthday is 3 days before mine and my youngest was born a week after mine. THis last year, I told the hubby, don't buy me anything, you can cook me dinner and write me a letter/card, other than that, I want tospend the money on the boys, He incidently gave up his birthday as well, saying it was only fair, and I made him dinner and a card, and we spent the extra money on Christmas that year. Now, it's not something I would suggest doing every year, but this last year we were short on cash, and I didn't really need anything, and there were a few big things we wanted to get for our sons. I wouldn't give up alot of things for a WANT for my child, unless I really thought they wanted it, and would appreciate it. Once they get older, they will begin to understand the sacrifices we make and hopefully they won't take it for granted. Having said that, If I need something, and my children want something, we go with needs first, and work on the other things.. I think it's better that way.

That is usually my weakness. I would go to a store to get something for myself because some of my stuff needs new replacement but then the first department I usually check out is the kids section. I end up buying something for my daughter and nothing for me. I know I have to stop this habit but when my daughter gets something, her face would lit up and give me a big hug and tell me thank you. I am trying to curve the unnecessary buying now that she is getting older because she might expect it all the time.

I definitely do...I thknk that is just part of being a parent...if youo child needs something I am willing to give something up to get it for them. Even if it is a silly toy...I will put off getting simething for myself in order to make my kids happy =)