Helping a child cope with a close family death.
By Mollyjo
@Mollyjo (266)
United States
March 4, 2007 4:02am CST
If you had a very close relative that is sick and dying or has passed away. How would you help your child cope with the hurt that it causes? My mother has cancer and the doctors only gave her up to 2 years to live. My kids all love their grandmother very much and I don't know the best way to help them. There is so much hurt and pain built up inside of their tender little hearts, yet my older two try to be brave and put on a happy face. I know that they are basiclly dying inside. What suggestions do you have besides counciling?
2 responses
@mobyfriend (1017)
• Netherlands
4 Mar 07
First let me give you a hug because not only the children but you are suffering as well.
Just be honest wiht your children and give them time to say goodbye to your mother. Try to make happy memories with her and the children. They will cherish those memories after your mother has gone.
Take care.
@mobyfriend (1017)
• Netherlands
4 Mar 07
Mollyjo, you are a wonderful mother. Caring for your mother and daughter with CF is not an easy task. Thanks for sharing your story how your mother's eyes lighted up. These are the things you and your children will remember.
@classy56 (2880)
• United States
4 Mar 07
im so sorry to hear this.an this is hard for everyone.i just lost my sister to cancer 1 1/2 year ago.that the family memebers did was told the kids about their grandma being sick.an may go to heaven.they did bring the kids to see her everyday.they were ages 1 thu 15.it was hard on them at frist but then it grew on them that she getting sicker.an by the time she passed away.all their feeling had changed,they relized she was better off an was in heaven.just let them spend as much time as they can with her.an let them talk to her about any question they may have.i think they need to hear why god takes certain people.so they wont be mad at him.just be there for them an talk to them an give them hugs an take them to a small chapple.an let them do their own praying an talking to god that may help them.i went to one at a hospital.an it helped alot.so try this to ease their pain..god bless
