Which are you?
By Bee1955
@Bee1955 (3882)
United States
March 4, 2007 8:07pm CST
Here's the situation:Your grandmother has a tradition that every grandchild on their 14th year of birth, was to get a birthstone ring of their choosing. Its you and 2 female cousins that year. All 3 of you go to the jewelry store with her (mothers sit in the sidelines - told NOT to interfere). You and your cousins look around for a 1/2 hour already told the limit for buying is $25.00 (this is before inflation). Grandmom starts with the oldest, but the oldest wants her mom to choose. Told it was hers to do so, she insists she wouldnt choose until her mother approves. Mother comes over and they begin to argue over the 4 rings she put aside. She comes to the next oldest (me), but the youngest is crying because she's "always last". You step back and tell grandmom to let her go ahead. Then the youngest chooses a $35.00 whopper and wont back down. She even ceases the argument the oldest cousin and your aunt are having. The youngest's mother comes over and tries to explain why she cant go over $25.00 and then the girl starts having a temper tantrum on the floor (at age 14!). I leave the shop with my other cousin with our mothers following. The crying stops and the cousin comes out smiling (you find out your aunt paid the extra $10.00). The oldest hears this, goes back and get's a ring $8.00 over and stubbornly sits on it. The cousins and aunts leave the shop. Grandmom says its your turn. You lean over and show her the 2 you were looking at, but no prices were on them. She explains the oldest cousin took the same ring as one of them (you have the same birth month). So you select the other. The gentleman says it was $38.00!!! Your mother sucks inward loudly as you whisper to your grandmother, 'Oh no! Grandmom, you said $25.00 and I didnt know the price of this one, I'll choose another'. The gentleman looks at your grandmother as you are going back to the ring case and says, "Now that was nice". She calls you over and says to the man, "She will have it" and turns to your mom and says, "No - I will pay it all. At least one grandchild paid attention and treated me with respect in here."
Think back to when you were 14 and tell me: Which one could have been you?
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7 responses
@beaniefanatic13 (5068)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
5 Mar 07
I most definitely would have been the respectful granddaughter. I was brought up to always show the utmost respect for adults not only in my family but ALL adults. Had I thrown a temper tantrum ever I can assure you that not only would I have received NOTHING, but that when I returned home I could be assured a good spanking and sitting in my room for a week to think about my bad behavior. Since it never happened to me I can safely say that I most definitely was the respectful granddaughter that you described above. I would have emphatically refused for my grandmother to pay the extra and if she did I would have made sure to repay her in some way.
Those other to grandchildren is a big part of whats wrong with our youth today. As always that's my 2 cents worth. Great discussion. :)
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@beaniefanatic13 (5068)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
10 Mar 07
Thank you for the best response, I'm honored! :)
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@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
What a lovely tradition. I would have been much like you - I was brought up to respect my elders - and indeed everyone. I would have definitely listened to my grandmother's wishes no matter how much I lusted after a different more expensive ring.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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5 Mar 07
14 was the time I grew up a lot after the loss of my grandfather, before this I probably would of picked out something around £30. ($60 to the us members)
Although I would of said I only wanted to spend time with them and not get anything. As I still don't like people buying me things, as money can be put to better use.
This doesn't mean I don't appreciate those who do, I just don't help them or let them know what I like. Regardless of if they say they really, really want to buy me something special. (as the day with my family is enough)
Honest reply.
~Joey
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@sasklily (240)
• Canada
10 Mar 07
I would have been the middle one; I was very shy (and still am), so I never could have behaved as the other two. I always hung back and didn't like to make any kind of 'waves'.
And I always was respectful of my elders, as well.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I would have been the respectful child. We never put a lot of emphasis on money when I was a children, and we still don't. I am glad, too. Those who did, are still like that.
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@Modestah (11177)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I have to say that I would have been the respectful granddaughter, I never wanted anyone to be put out because of me. I have a son that is like that too - he insists that his clothes come from thrift shops because he can not see all the money new clothes cost us when slightly used is good enough.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
5 Mar 07
Definitely the one who last one, we were pretty poor when I was a kid, if I dared argue about a price limit when givin one, it was simple, we did not get the item in question. No further discussion.
I was raised to be very conscious of financial decisions of both my money and other people's money.
Besides, my parents believed in corporal punishment, I did not try to push my luck not at that age at least.
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