Holding a grudge

United States
March 4, 2007 10:51pm CST
Have you ever had anyone hold what seems like a grudge against you and you can't figure out why? When you say something and this person always has some hateful or smart aleck thing to say, how should one react? What if you found out the reason the person is upset is because someone told them a lie about you or twisted something you might have said? I can't help but wonder why human nature is that we don't just go to the person that is suppose to have wronged us and simply ask instead of making hurtful remarks to them in front of others, leaving them to wonder what it is they did wrong. It seems like going to the source and talking to them would be a better solution than deciding you won't give anyone a chance to either deny allegations or explain what they did. Why is it that some people prefer to stay in a corner and lick their wounds and spread more rumors that only serve to blow a situation out of proportion even more, instead of trying to find out the truth?
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@tarsadawn (350)
• United States
5 Mar 07
I always like to ask...are you mad at me, what have I done, did you say this about me...I don't like to hold it all in. I say, confront and get it all out in the open. You can always tell by people's responses if they're not being honest. People say that you get out of Jr. High in the 8th grade, but that's not true. Some people's attitudes do not change one bit...they carry on like a bunch of gossipy Jr. high kids all the time.
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• United States
5 Mar 07
So true!! Who knows that better than us, huh Tarsa? lol I am like you, I have to confront.
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
We have high self-esteem, and it is but natural for us to react negatively at times when an attack to our person was made directly or indirectly. Everyone who violates our being, physically or emotionally becomes our enemy. But then, aware or unaware of it, human law says "Innocent until proven guilty"...this might be the reason why we cannot just go directly to the person whom we think has done us wrong if we are not 100% sure that this person really did it. We can only give "hints" of our ill-feelings ---grudges--- towards that person. There are many factors that contribute in this situation, and i can say that holding grudges and for how long would depend in one's culture or in one's upbringing as a child.
• United States
5 Mar 07
You make alot of sense here. I guess I am one of the confrontational kinds, sometimes that is good, sometimes not so good.
• United States
5 Mar 07
I am not one of these people. I come right out and say Ok you seem to have a hair up your butt what's the problem. If they wont tell and let us clear the air or at least discuss it then I tell them I don't appreciate their snide remarks so in the future just stay away from me.
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@Fishish (697)
• India
5 Mar 07
i havent ever had such an experience adn not such a twisted thing about some lies and all. if someone is not talking to me properly i ignore but if it gets too much then i give a return. worst coem i shall confront the person directly . i would not tolerate any nonsense...