Ever suspect your guy or girl is secretly jealous or contemptuous of you?

@carlena1 (120)
United States
March 5, 2007 4:54pm CST
I had a few boyfriends that appreciate me being outgoing at first, but later began mocking me, and sabotaging things that would help me advance in my educational and career paths. I think inter-relational jealousy is the most venemous form of jealousy there is.
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• United States
7 Mar 07
If this happens, the first thing that comes to mind is that the boyfriend could be insecure that the girlfriend would advance from her current status, overcome him, and then leave him. Jealousy and competitiveness among couples could breed from possessiveness. The other party would always think of the worst that could happen in the relationship ahead of time. The sabotaging and the lack of supportiveness are done as preventive measures.
@carlena1 (120)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I never thought about posessiveness, but now looking back- he tried to alter my educational endeavors too- said he didn't want to see me in a field that wasn't lucrative- I am seeking a Master's of science in info systems. He thought that was a saturated field- He wanted me to become Chief Editor of some magazine proposal he had me working on- he later changed his mind after all my hard work put in. Thanks so much for the insight.
@tatzkie (644)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
thats a stupid thing to do for someone who claims he or she loves you. Me i felt insecure once when i was still a student and my girlfriend was a teacher then. But i did prove my worth and said to myself and to her, that i may be a student but im one hell of a student that you can be proud of.
@carlena1 (120)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I am glad you were able to take control over your insecurity and make it work out in a cute gesture. Some people never admit insecure feelings to themself or anyone else
@sunita64 (6470)
• India
5 Mar 07
Well those who are jealous can never be called friends they are competitors, friends are never jealous of your success. So it seems you have mistaken your competetiors as friends.I have never experienced this as all my friends have always been happy at my progress.
@carlena1 (120)
• United States
5 Mar 07
They were boyfriends - so this rather confusing. They sought me for the same reasons they turned around and mocked me for.But I vacated ofcourse. Thanx