After losing someone, when is the time to move on?

Philippines
March 5, 2007 9:01pm CST
A friend of mine recently lost her husband, its been 2 weeks after his death. She says she will be having hard time accepting this and cannot think of how long it would be before she recovers. For you how long did you recover from a loss?
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@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
After we lost a loved one, we cannot set a specific time on how long our recovery will be. Time heals all wounds. It takes time to totally accept that someone we love is already gone. She should also help herself to recover and accept the fact that he's gone.
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• Philippines
6 Mar 07
Yeah you are right. I always tell her that healing starts with acceptance.
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@MissMo (170)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Like everyone else said, there really isn't a set time to get over the loss of someone important in your life. Fortunately, I haven't lost a spouse or intimate partner but personally, if my S/O were to die (God forbid!) I think it would be a few months before I was able to manage my life on my own again and probably a few years before I even began to think about dating again. I also read that your friend has a baby on the way. This will probably bring up a lot of mixed emotions for her and she will probably miss her husband even more with a new baby around. She will also be really busy, though, so hopefully she won't even have time to sit and be depressed and her new baby will bring her a lot of joy.
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
Oh yes, I told her that also. That when the baby comes around she will be busy taking care of it so she will not feel the loss and pain that much.
@harwoodkp (285)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Everyone has a different amount of time after losing someone. I lost my dad 12 years ago to cancer. I still think about him and that He does not get a chance to meet his wonderful grandson. Still life goes on for me, but I dont forget those in the past. And The pain is not as strong as time goes on.
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
Yes you are right. I lost both my parents to cancer also and still after years of not being with them, I still feel the pain.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
I agree, in that situation, it's too difficult to move on. But i think, God has a reason why it happened, maybe your friend will have someone that could be her partner for the rest of her life. I cant say the exact time of recovering but it's really needs time for the wound to be healed. Prayers can help and dont let your friend be alone. She needs someone to talk to, to be her true friend this time.