Do you ever feel that when you had kids, you also have a brain transplant?

@all4ucnc (861)
United States
March 6, 2007 10:15am CST
When I think about things I thought, or things I did before having my kids, I'm blown away...I've seen it happen to friends as well, They would make comments on how we should raise our kids, or say "just get a sitter". And now they have kids too, and their ways of thinking are different as well, it's true that kids change everything...But in a good, But I often wonder if their isn't a process I missed...I mean was the actual procedure..Take out baby, insert brain. Or does having kids really advance your age to a more mature level of thinking?
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6 Mar 07
I found the opposite was true. Since having my children my memory for things is much worse. I can't remember simple things like what I wanted from the supermarket any more. However it has made me think a lot more about different things and I'm a lot more resourceful than I used to be. I can easily create a new game, or think of something to do fon a rainy afternoon with the kids and I could never do it for myself.
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@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I have decided that memory loss...Comes with having children, not from old age.
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@subspeed (160)
• Maldives
7 Mar 07
IS it ... SO dont have kids ....
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
Having your own little ones can certainly change your life. There is nothing funny about raising these little tykes. Overnight, you need to grow up quickly. There will be a lot of ups and downs like a bomb that suddenly dropped down on you. You can't afford to whine about those things, but to use your wits to think of ways on how to handle your kids properly. With each year that our little ones grew, we also gain more wisdom and inner strenght. Its really amzing how such a little bundle can teach us more about life.
@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Yep! Once you survive one "phase", they take you through another. You live for the moment now, not knowing where they will lead you through next, but what an exciting journey.
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@kesfylstra (1868)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I think people who do not yet have children just don't comprehend what it is about. They think they have answers, but that is meaningless until you actually have a tiny person who is solely your responsibility. Suddenly it's like "OH, that's why parents always seem to overprotective!"
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@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Once you have kids, you feel your life is more complete and you just don't feel the need to go out, or do things without them. I'm happier now than I ever was before kids, But people just can't realize that feeling or change of heart, until they have some little joys of their own.
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@mkirby624 (1598)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I do have a hard time understand why parents do certain things, but I know when I have kids, I will get it. And to an extent, I do understand why new parents especially are very protective of their child and don't want anyone driving them or anything like that. But, then again, some parents seem to lose common sense when it comes to a lot of things. I realize that parents feel like their child is safer when they are there with them, but a lot of parents, new parents especially, get this opinion in their head that they are the ONLY people who know how to properly raise and take care of a child, so they won't let anyone else keep the child. That's kind of my brother and SIL's POV on things. They won't let her ride with anyone but them. If we keep her, we aren't allowed to go anywhere with her. She'll be one at the end of this month. At some point, they've got to release the clutches. I realize that, yeah, she IS just one, but it's time to stop treating her like a fragile new born. My sil STILL rides in the backseat with her, since her carseat is still turned backwards. I mean, isn't that taking it a bit too far?? She's gotta learn to entertain herself!!
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• India
7 Mar 07
in one way you can say so.... kids do change ones lifestyle,more responsibilities on your shoulder,you have to care about every little and single things.... all the concentration starts going on him.... and perhaps this is when people becomes really mature....
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@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
7 Mar 07
It's seems like your running in circles before you have kids, and then once you become a mom. You just "GET IT". Your life takes on a whole new meaning, and you really start to find yourself as a different/better person. At least that was my finding, I always knew I wanted to be a mom, I grew up around kids and loved it. But until you have them, you just don't know.
• China
7 Mar 07
i agree with you.after i have my daughter,i become more mature.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
7 Mar 07
you know I had to giggle when i read your head line because you hit the nail right on the head. It does feel like I had a brain transplant after having my kids and it seems to change every time I have anoter child. I now have 4 kids and my train of thought has changd so much it is not funny.
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@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Thank you, I'm happy someone agrees with me, and understands what I'm talking about. I was hoping I wasn't the only one.
@Tanika (632)
• Australia
7 Mar 07
Heya, Having kids certainly changes your perspectives on life. I am the only one of my friends with kids and I cannot wait until they have kids so that we can be on the same level again. I also agree that they seem to take some brain cells with them :) LOL. Or maybe its just because we are too tired these days to think as clearly as we used to. I used to be very philosophical and sharp but these days, although I still find concepts like that interesting, I just cannot get into the headspace to contemplate them. Kids also inserts some brain cells in other regions I think, Like I am way more aware of my personal safety and that of others than I used to be. I suppose its a give and take process. All in all though, its very rewarding and I wouldn't change a thing!! :) Tanika.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
7 Mar 07
I agree, you change completely after having kids. It is a good thing, but sometimes it would be nice to return to those innocent pre-baby days! At least now I get why my parents were the way they were. :) I never understood how they could be so "grown-up" and I never seemed to reach that stage, I still felt like a kid until my son was born when I was 25!
• Canada
6 Mar 07
Having kids you realise how dependant they are on you and they are a part of you. Whether that part contains your brain is still a mystery. Until you have children of your own you realise that you are the sole person responsible for bring them in to the world and having to raised them and whiel the child was inside of you for that time a connection is made stroger than any thing. Now that mine are older and doing everything on there own i realise how much on other levels I gave up to make sure they were taken care of and did it for there happiness and by doing it, it made me even more complete and proud of them and myself.
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@goodson (93)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I know what you mean!!
@stormygrl (761)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I think it changes most people at least in maturity , somewhat! You actually are in charge of another human being and you only get one chance with that child so you better do the best you can do. Kids put everyhing in perspective.
7 Mar 07
When i was in my younger days... i didn't actually care about the kids around me like my nephew who was 1 yr old at that time... but after i had my own kid, a daughter... a lot of things change... i was scared of her future... all i can think of her and what would she be in the future... now everytime i see street children, it breaks my heart in to pieces... it changes a lot to me... it makes me more matured in many ways... now i learn how to value quality time... and how much i wanted to go home early just to see my kids before they went to bed....