Adults dating children?

@lillake (1633)
United States
March 6, 2007 2:10pm CST
I was reading online a woman who was upset that her friend is allowing her 16 year old daughter to date a 33 year old man. How do you feel about relationships like that? Do you think some one that young can handle a relationship with an adult? Do you think the adult is sick for wanting to date some one so young?
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• United States
6 Mar 07
i think that this practice of an olderman dating an extremly younger woman is disgusting. I have to say that there is something really wrong with a man if he can't get a woman his own age. But why would a grown woman let her young daughter date someone of that age? insane i tell you insane
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• United States
6 Mar 07
The way "children" are growing these days, many would be surprised at how "adult" like some can carry themselves. I believe any teenager can handle most adult situations if given the opportunity to do so. And I do believe that children and teenagers do understand love more than most parents give them credit for. I don't believe the adult to be of a sick nature for condoning to take part in a relationship with a person younger than they are. I would be a hypocrite if I did state that such adults were in the wrong for dating those way younger than them, since when my husband and I first got together I was 15 and he was 21. Although at first my mom had many concerns, firstly because she didn't know him and secondly because of the age factor, but most of those concerns were laid to rest after she got to know him and her and I had a chance to discuss such issues. To me if both parties involved know what they are getting themselves into, than by all means let them have their relationship and be in love. Age constraints should only be limited to those that are not in understanding of such situations and those that haven't developed the capacity to think on an adult level yet. Age is but a number, love knows no boundaries.
@Ravenladyj (22922)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I dated a guy who was 32 when I was around 15 BUT I also grew up really fast and had been on my own already for 2 yrs so there was no "getting permission"...but if my son or daughter came to me and told me that someone that age wanted to date them I'd obviously say no then I'd hunt the person down and beat them within an inch of their lives with strict orders to stay the hell away from my MINOR son/daughter....
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@eden32 (3975)
• United States
7 Mar 07
At 17 I dated someone who was in his early 30s. I was already a parent at 17, out of high school, attending college & working. It didn't last very long, but I don't think there was anything sick about his interest in me. Nor was I dating him to take advantage of his being able to buy booze or anything like that. More often than not I don't think many 30-somethings are going to have much in common with (older) teenagers; but there will be exceptions. Last I heard the teacher who went to jail for having children by her 12/13 year old student- oh why can't I think of the name now- but anyway, last I heard they were still a couple. That's a pretty extreme case. We all look at it & think that woman was a predator & an awful person; but does their continuing to be together negate that? Were we wrong to feel she did something outrageous?
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@eden32 (3975)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Mary Kay Letourneau It was going to drive me nuts until I remembered :)
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• India
7 Mar 07
This is ridiculous.An adult of age 33 dating? I will slap him and say its time for you to go to a pilgrim.Such type of mothers according to me is having no heart beats.Thats too bad to encourage such relationships....
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• Netherlands
7 Mar 07
I think that grown men that desire to date teenage girls do have something wrong with them. What can a 16 year old girl contribute to a relationship with a 33 year old man? Aside from physical, nothing as a 16 year old girl lacks life experience and maturity. I don't care what anyone says, they can say that a 16 year old girl whos been through a lot has matured past her years.... Not true. She is still 16 mentally no matter how elequent. She still has the desire to be taken care of as a child does and still can't entirely manage her feelings and emotions. When I was 16, sure I was attracted to older men. I thought I was mature and grown and that the older men held more draw for me. My mother NEVER would have allowed it. She would always tell me that I was too young for that and as much as I hated her at the time.... I realised she was right.
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@wathanjim (2215)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I think this is very wrong.If it were My daughter the man would be prosecuted at the very least.He would hope He went to jail.
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@chokolate (123)
• United States
6 Mar 07
If the mother has knowledge about it,then she should be arrested for contributing to the delinquentcy of a minor and the man should be locked up for his actions also! What is this world coming to.He is old enough to be her father!I hope he doesn't have any girls.
• United States
6 Mar 07
When I see ages like that I always think something is wrong. One might think the guy likes little girls or maybe the girl is looking for a father figure or a sugar daddy. It is usually a little bit of both. What could those two possiably have in common. I will say this though there are always exceptions to the rule.
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@kesfylstra (1870)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I don't know if I would think the adult is sick, but at least a little off his rocker. I dated a man in his late 30s when I was 20. At the time I thought it was the greatest thing ever, but looking back I seriously wonder what I was thinking, and why he was interested in someone so young. However, a few centuries ago, it was nothing for a man in his 30s or even 40s to marry a girl 15 years younger than him, sometimes for love, and sometimes not. What is so different today?
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• India
7 Mar 07
Friend i dont understand what is the problem in such a type of dating love, friendship are some relations which are unconditional and these dont see ages. by this fact the woman's friend was sending her daughter. And also the characteristics of that man is also not known to you. hence all these things are to be considered before saying adults dating childen. please dont take my words harshly. and be positive
• India
7 Mar 07
that must be a big problem