Could you give some advice?
By vicky19810
@vicky19810 (1600)
China
March 6, 2007 9:06pm CST
I am very sad from yesterday night to now,as i tangled with my boyfriend.there were many times that we would have the dissensions for each other,because of many inappreciable things.but i can not understand why we start to quarrel every times,even if they were not our desire.then every times,we were very unhappy and silent for a period of time.i do not know why he would misunderstand my meaning and replace with other explanations.in fact,i did not want to contest with him,and often i would like to talk about somethings with him peacefully not quarrel.but....maybe we are both so much emulative.:( i have no idea for it,but i wish there will be not a quarrel between us.
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5 responses
@fairygreen (533)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
I feel sorry for you, i guess you two both need space and a little time as individuals for yourself, to be able to divert your attention so that the next time you guys talk you could discuss things and patch up the misunderstandings,,that is my opinion on that..coz every relationship passes thru that situation and i am one and i know its kinda hard guessing each other's feelings.
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@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
7 Mar 07
thanks for your response,and yes,i think so ,that we need have our own personal space to calm our mood.to guess other's feeling is a hard thing,and will bring misunderstanding.
@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
8 Mar 07
thank you for your care.yes i do not want to something bad happened again.and yesterday,i am very sad with my mood,but now,everything is ok,then we will understand for each other in future.thanks again!
@joby_09 (498)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
disagreements are part of relationships. but to quarrel everyday, there must be something on either or both of you. I suggest you give each other some time and space to think things out. Maybe, you need to assess yourself first than assess the other. Besides, giving time and space for yourself is not bad at all. It does necessarily that you go on a breakup. Maybe, just a few days of not seeing each other. Maybe, there you will realize how important you are to each other. =)
@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
20 Mar 07
i really agree with your idea,and thanks for your response very much.i see it ,and it is a good idea and behavior to assess myself first,then i can know it clearly for me.it also is important to have own time and space.i see now,thank you again.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
8 Mar 07
I am sorry you are in such a state. Seems that there is some misunderstanding somewhere. Are you both communicating well? Perhaps you can identify the nature of the quarrels. It takes time to really understand each other. I am in no position to advise, however, I am a ready listener anytime :)
I wish you all the best.
@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
20 Mar 07
oh yes,you are very right and we need too much communication with each other.and yes,we often talk about ourselves in a period.now the relation of us get better,but it is impossible for no quarrels.lol...
@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
10 Mar 07
yes you are right,and thanks for your response and taking care.i will do it better.
