Maid

Philippines
March 7, 2007 1:04am CST
I'm turning 25 this year, but I haven't had a boyfriend yet. I'm thinking maybe it's better to get old on my own. I've never ever felt being loved by a man, so how can I long for something I haven't the slightest idea about? But some people tell me that it's better to have a family to help me out when I'm already old. I don't know what to believe. I want a man, but I also want to be alone. Has it crossed your mind how it's going to be like to be a spinster or a bachelor? Would you want to be one?
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@lani0529 (1722)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Hi jackie!(",) Don't feel so bad about it. I'm 21 and I was never been in a boy-girl relationship. I am asking about it for quite sometime now. Do you know what I realized? Entering in a relationship is a big decision to make. It is my choice to be single all this time because I want to enjoy it to the fullest while I can. I always believed that the right guy will come at the right time when I'm ready for the big responsibility that goes with it. I'm very secure in my family to ever want a boyfriend as of now. I think if you want to have a boyfriend just for the sake of experiencing how it is to have one, then you have a wrong motive and perception to start with. Just wait for awhile, for I believe that the Lord is busy preparing the best love story for you. Don't rush because, you are worth waiting for. My sister is already 25 years old too, and she is not in a relationship yet.(",) Don't you worry, we are all in the same boat... Enjoy your life and be the best that you can be because your Prince Charming will save you soon.(",)
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@ashjoe76 (1422)
• India
7 Mar 07
I think it is too early for you to come to the conclusion that no boy needs you and you need to stay a spinster, or that you will stay alone because you may need to be left alone. I guess 25 is not too old an age to have boyfriends. There are some people who start having boy/girlfriends at the age of 45 or 50, depending on the priorities you have in your life. Anyway, if you have a strong feeling that you need to stay a spinster, you have every reason to choose that way, but I sugggest you try to stay happy and preoccupied in some way as well.
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@sherinek (3320)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Dear Jackie, 25 yrs is not too old, in that case no age is too old to find love. You may have not met the correct person till now and that's why you have this question. When you meet the guy, you will not want to be alone anymore. Only thing you will need would be to be with him, for ever and ever. Until then, be patient. Some people find love after retirement even. So you have a lot more time, do you agree? Keep an open mind and try to meet with people. One day you'll find your guy. Best of luck.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
7 Mar 07
Sometimes things happen for people later, I have a couple of friends that met the men in their lives later and for some reason their relationships seem to be better than my friends who married young. Then their are my friends who got married young and they are alwayd saying they wish they had their time again that they wouldn't ever get married so I guess you have to think unless you get someone really suited to you that is going to make your life absolutely fantastic it is better to be free so you can meet that person in the future...I bet there is someone very special out there just waiting around some corner of your life....
@gloria777 (1674)
• India
7 Mar 07
Don't bother for unforseen circumstances. You will get a good partner in near future. You are still young. In my opinion one should have a family as years passes.
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• Philippines
7 Mar 07
you are still 25, what are you worried about. Im turning 31 this coming may and i am not even worried. And i dont have a boyfriend since birth. hahahahaha. Enjoy life and be confident about yourself the right person would come along in time. and if not, well you should go our once in a while and explore
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@anup12 (4177)
• India
7 Mar 07
Do not worry lol it is very natural that you wanted to be loved by somebody,cared by somebody.Just maintain your cool.You will find somebody very much suitable to you.
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
7 Mar 07
When you fate comes , you will evenutually tied knot yea ... and don't rush things , because it will affect your whole life ....
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@ahade1 (98)
• Malaysia
8 Mar 07
yeah i totally agree with you.. Everything happen always has a reason..
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
7 Mar 07
25 is not yet old..you still have lots of time..socialize and meet new friends...maybe in this state of mind since you dont have a man you think you could be contented of having none..but mind you you must marry and bear children its good to have one and very rewarding..i dont one to be one coz right now im very much married and have 4 kids...it never crossed my mind to be a spinster all my life
@Shebang (244)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Don't feel that you are alone in this world because there are too many girls out there who have the same experience as you do. Unfortunately I am also one of them. But I don't feel pity about myself. The only difference between you and me I guess, was that somehow I have been into a relationship, only that it lasted for a month or two. I tell you there is nothing wrong with being single. As long as you are happy and that you are contented, find joy within yourself. People will often tell, there will always be a man whom God intended for us. But we asked, when will he come? When is that time. I am turning 24 this Saturday, and still with no boyfriend but I really don't feel bad. As long as I have my family with me and my friends, they are such a great source of joy. In fact, I'm starting to see myself alone until I grow older. I am not afraid though to be alone. Because even now, I feel I have that one great companion, who was with me since I was born. And I'm sure that years from now, He will also be there to accompany me.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
It's never too late to find love, so don't worry. I would suggest that while you're still unattached to enjoy it as much as you can, because once you're married with kids, you won't have that much freedom anymore. Or maybe you're a perfectionist? If you keep looking for the perfect guy you'll never find him. He does not exist. It's enough that he's a good man that you truly love and loves you in return. When you find that, take a chance. In the meantime, enjoy being unattached! It's better to be free than to be in a bad relationship.
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@maliea (6)
• Nigeria
7 Mar 07
you don't have to rush it. and you should stop feeling unloved cos this might make it difficult for you to allow anyone close enough. and about wanting to be alone,i think you should erase that idea from your mind completely. there's nothing like having someone to share in your joy and pain as you grow older. your parents and siblings will have their own family to run and won't always be there for you.
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• United States
7 Mar 07
They say waiting is the best policy. The older you marry the first time they longer the relationship will last. I unfortunately have too many friends that married young and have already had a divorce. Think of all the wasted money on the wedding. Then when you find the right person the 2nd time around you are always questioning it because you don't want to go through that financial burden again. I'm 25 and single and at times think if I will ever find the right person. At the same time though I realize I still have a good amount of time in front of me before findinga wife and having kids before retirement is hard. I also look at all the money I'm saving from dating and that I'm actually happy right now. Take your time and when you least expect it it will come.
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@Kchele (77)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Love is different for everyone. Some people do not find their soulmate until later in life. And yes, I do believe everyone has a soulmate. Love won't come to you if you are looking for it. It happens when you are least expecting it. And as you grow older and you decide that you don't want to be married, then that is ok. You don't have to be married to get along in this world. It is your life, you make the choices that will make you happy.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
7 Mar 07
i definitely don't want to spend my life by myself... i like family and i want to grow old with somebody that i love... husband and children... in fact, i am already married for over a year now and planning to have a child this year... i believe that God doesn't want us to live alone and our lives will be more fulfilling if we share it with somebody that we love... that's what i thought...
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
7 Mar 07
Well i am also 25 but i am a 25 year old single mother of two and i have also been alone though for the last three years and i plan on staying this way. I love to be single as this gives me the right to choose and not have to compromise ... LOL!! However i do believe that when the time is right that we will both find the man that is right for us and we can be happy and we will know that real love does exist!
@samseiko (116)
• Malaysia
7 Mar 07
Hmm yeah it did cross my mind about how it is like to be a bachelor, but do not think about it, like some of them told you, you will never know when love comes. Don't have to rush things, need to be patient.
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@anjoks (2080)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Love comes in an unexpected place and time. Be patient my friend. It will come, sooner or later you'll see that love will be in the air for you. It's a nice feeling though. . In the meantime, continue what u've been doing. It will come really, just wait en see. (",)
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• Philippines
7 Mar 07
you're only 35, don't think that nobody in this world is for you. many people got married at the age of 40... living alone is the hardest part of life... you need someone, a companion maybe...
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
It has actually crossed my mind, and I think that it's just fine. You wouldn't be totally alone, you'll have your friends and your family with you. I mean, I think I'd rather have that than be with someone for the sake of convenience, like what you said, someone who'll want to take care of you. Don't rush, your still young