Do you still get a cake on your birthday?

Blow out the candles and make a wish! - Picture of several candles.
Singapore
March 7, 2007 3:47am CST
Birthdays are typically once-a-year affairs except for those born in a leap year. I remember when I was young, my parents would always get a cake for me. We will stick in some candles, sing the birthday song, and then blow them out as I made my wishes (not that they ever came true.. or did they? :P). I know not everyone is fortunate to have such a childhood, and many made up for it by having big parties when they are older. For me, I stopped having cakes long ago. Not because my parents no longer love me, but because I am feeling old and jaded and that I have told them I don't want a cake anymore. I mean, what's the point? Unless you know how to bake them yourself, you waste good money to be conned by some dubious confectionery that pretends that baking cakes costs a lot of money. So how about you? Do you still have cakes on your birthdays? Do you believe in the magic of blowing out candles while making your wishes? Or do you have different practices for different family members and friends?
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@Darkwing (21583)
7 Mar 07
Yes, I still have cakes on my birthday, baked by my daughter-in-law's fair hands. They insist on putting candles on it, but I don't believe in wishing whilst blowing out candles, because my beliefs tell me you should never blow out candles, as it blows away your good luck. I prefer to snuff or pinch out my candles, and if I want to make a wish, I do it whilst actually lighting the candle. But then, we all have different ideals and beliefs. I wouldn't buy shop cakes as I bake, ice and decorate celebration cakes and home-baked are far better and more personal than any shop ones. They are quite expensive to make as the icing, marzipan and the board cost quite dearly, but it's far better value than buying one in the shops... and fresher! Thank you for this discussion... a good one. I'm rating + Brightest Blessings.
• Singapore
7 Mar 07
How very sweet! Ever consider publishing a book that teaches mothers-in-laws how to live amicably with daughters-in-law? ;-)
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• Canada
7 Mar 07
Darkwing; You are so blessed to have someone to bake you a cake. I agree it is far nicer to have a home baked cake than a store cake. I tell my husband that but he will not make me one he buys one. He does cook and bake but not cakes. And when it is your daughter-in-law that is so precious also. Have a peachy keen day. peecheee
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
carrot cake - My favorite cake is carrot cake.
AAAhhh...wizzzyyy, you're really getting old now. And yes jaded...I always have a birthday cake until now. You know why??? because my birthday and my eldest daughter's birthday fall on the same day. I'm good you know. I really waited for my birthday to come before pushing my daughter away from my womb. Hmmm...must be your birthday today. Don't worry, bunny here says to give you a birthday cake. And its special.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Sorry...bunny here just told me he put some poison in there. Don't worry, nothing will happen to you except you will have long ears when you wake up the following day. "guffaw"
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• Singapore
7 Mar 07
Naughty bunny... :P
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• Singapore
7 Mar 07
Hmm.. is your cake made of rabbit meat or carrots? :P
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@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
7 Mar 07
Yes, I actually still do get cakes on my Birthdays. When I was younger my parents all together just stopped buying me Birthday cakes. It got to the point where I began to start wishing they would purchase me a cake all over again. Now that I am much older my other half knows how much it hurt that my parents would either forget to buy me one. Or just wouldn't go ahead & buy me one. So each year my other half has started surprising me with Birthday cakes. I will either tell him what kind of cake I would want for that year & he will get it custom made for me. The cakes I have gotten over the last few years have made up for all those years that I didn't get any as a kid. I feel so special that my other half is willing to go out of his way to make my Birthday so very special. I also do believe in the magic of blowing out candles. I still make a wish each time even if I am all grown up. I still do believe that when you wish upon a candle that some of the things you wish for will come true. I know that I have personally wished upon the candles that we're on my Birthday cakes.. And a lot of the things I had wished for had come true.. I feel very lucky that this has happened. I think till the day I die & keep receiving Birthday cakes that I will keep on doing this throughout the years. I know that I will get my other half a customized cake for his Birthdays to. Or sometimes we will just make a Birthday cake from scratch for each other & we will make it instead of having to dish out money to have one customized for each other. I find there is so much more meaning behind a cake that was made by ones self. It shows that there was some thought, as well as love put behind the cake that was made for such a special occasion as one's Birthday. In conclusion.. I am thankful that I have a man who is apart of my life who is so willing to make me feel so special.. On that one day out of the year that celebrates me.. Which is of course my Birthday! I feel so very blessed that I have someone who is so willing to make up for all those Birthday cakes that I ended up missing out on as a kid.. I feel all the wonderful cakes I have gotten so far from my other half have truly made up for those years of my childhood where I had wanted one ever so badly! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx
• Singapore
7 Mar 07
Your hubby is really sweet. I guess you can almost say that whatever you've lost, he has made up for it. ;-) What do you mean by "personally wished upon the candles that we're on my Birthday cakes" - you are not talking about those popular photo-cakes right? Printing your picture on the cake... And I do agree. If you can bake it yourself, it is so much more special. But none of us here can make. :P It is me, and the others here, that must thank you for sharing. ^^
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• United States
8 Mar 07
I always have a cake on my birthdays even now. I still blow the candles, etc. I guess the candle blowing will have to stop when I need a fire extinguisher to put out the candles on the cake..=) I think I will always have a cake on my birthday till I get old because I enjoy them so much. My mother is a baker and everytime I see a cake...it reminds me of those times where she is just decorating cakes.
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• Singapore
8 Mar 07
Lol... "blow" them out with your hands when that time comes. :P
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
To tell you honestly, I don't remember blowing a birthday candle. I guess because our family was so poor that when we were still kids we really can't afford to buy birthday cake. I don't even remember having a birthday party. So now that I have kids, I always make it a point that everytime they celebrate their birthdays, they should have at least a simple celebration and the cake should always be there for them to make a wish.
• Singapore
8 Mar 07
A very good parent! ;-)
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• China
7 Mar 07
I excepted that I could get a cake and my family members/friends could attend my birthday party.But that is my dream.It isn't coming.
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• Singapore
7 Mar 07
Why not? Try working towards it. ;-)
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@tess1960 (2385)
• United States
7 Mar 07
No one says you can't plan your own party. I am! My mom offered her house and we are having a combined Easter Dinner/Birthday Party on my birthday this year. I even created the invitation and mom is making my favorite cake, angel food with white frosting. She is going to make a great ham dinner with scalloped potatoes and the Easter Egg hunt is going to be a treasure hunt. She lives in the country and has a huge yard with lots of little hiding places. There will be more than just eggs out there. Plan your own party and have a blast.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
7 Mar 07
I do not make cake on my birthday but there is one sweet dish called "halwa" I still make and offer it to God first and then seek his blessings for a healthy and wealthy life.This has been in tradition of my family. My mother at home still makes it and follow the tradition.Even though I am old enough but this is done regularly.
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@LeXDei (209)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
Nah! I am to celebrate my 27th birthday this year and I am not expecting a cake for that day. I guess cakes are for children and when you get to a point that you feel that you're not getting any younger, anything that will remind you of aging will not be very important. Wishes that I had during my birthdays came true but I cannot attribute it to my blowing of candles since there were a lot of times that there were no candles to blow-- just a day to be thankful for and a day when I can ask for whatever as a birthday gift.
• United States
7 Mar 07
I usually had birthday cake when I was younger. These days I dont. My birthday is coming up and I would love to have some ice cream cake. But my friends arent really into that and i cant eat the whole cake by myself!
• United States
7 Mar 07
I have gotten cake every year on my birthday except for like the last 3. The year I came back from college for summer vacation I do remember having a cake, but having a horrible birthday (long story). Now I don't go home during the summer since I have my own place. I haven't seen my parents the past 2 birthdays of mine. They still buy me presents though and visit around that time. :) I guess I do'nt mind not having cake. I personally like pie better!
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@mummymo (23706)
8 Mar 07
You have to have a cake on your birthday!!! maybe as we get older we can't have a candle for ever year we've lived but hey cake is cake......
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@kylanie (1205)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I still get a cake and I also get gifts and then but the things is that I still like them they are hommeade cakes and it was made out of love and thats what counts
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@Chilly80 (40)
• Slovenia
7 Mar 07
I still remember when I was younger, before I started going to school my parents always bought a whole cake for me and every year I had a different one (different shapes - rabbit, football, cow...) and there were always as much candles as I was old to blow out. That lasted till the end of school when I was 13. Now when I'm 26 my parents still buy me cake, but now they buy only 4 slices (mom, dad, me and my sister) for desert at the end of the birthday feast. You're never too old for a slice of cake :)
• India
8 Mar 07
hmmmm....for me birthday a reason to get home a chocolate cake...lol......but yea...i blv in making wishes while blowing the candles...coz sum1 said that u must forward ur wishes to god everyday...coz each day he fulfills one person's wish
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Mar 07
well i think its a tradition in our family to have one always and a spaghetti too...but we never throw a huge party just families celebrating it..
@kaplya (1578)
• India
7 Mar 07
i m also not interested in getting cake for my b'day and reason is quite different from that money-saving attitude!!i simply don't buy it becasue i don't want to gain any extra weight.;)i guess, i have became even more cautious about my weight since i came out of my teenage years!
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• Singapore
7 Mar 07
Well, if you get a really fruity cake without cream, it can be pretty healthy too! ;-)
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I still have cake for my birthday, angelfood cake with tons of chocolate frosting - if no one gets me one I get it myself and also eat it myself. One year I was angry with my kids so hid my cake and ate the whole thing over several days - serves them right for creating more work for me on my birthday (they trashed the house, teenagers). I don't believe in the "magic" of blowing out candles and as it costs a fortune in candles these days for mine I forgo them on my cake but kids and grandkids still get them.
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@AmbiePam (85443)
• United States
9 Mar 07
You can still get candles free with the cake. I know Walmart and Sam's Club in the U.S. give out candles according to the age you are.
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• Singapore
8 Mar 07
You mean candles actually cost money? In Singapore, they come free with the cake and you can have as many as you want (though they cheat by using a taller version to represent 10).
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• Singapore
10 Mar 07
Yes, but you can always lie about your age. Instead of buying a cake for you 2 yrs old babe, you can always say you are getting it for your 80 yrs old granny. :P
• United States
7 Mar 07
definitely i get that...... why you dont ....???
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@ironstruck (2298)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
My birthday was last week and I looked everywhere. I looked in the kitchen and in the bedroom. Under the chair and behind the T.V. I tried in the junk drawer and in the closet. Under my pillow and underneath the sink. I even looked in the trunk of my car. BUT NO FREAKING CAKE!!!!! So I guess NO!!! I DON'T GET CAKES ANYMORE!! Ooops, now I remember. I didn't tell anyone it was my birthday.lol
• Singapore
8 Mar 07
Oh boy... why don't you buy a cake for yourself the next time and pretend someone gave you a spare? :P
8 Mar 07
I still have birthday cakes but there are just plain ones but I don't believe in blowing out the candles
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