Are you jealous of your children cux your spouse will pay attention more to them

@shannon76 (1233)
United States
March 7, 2007 9:54am CST
Has anyone experienced this? I tend to get hurt and jealous feelings because my husband will walk in the door from work and just go straight to the baby and pick him up and cuddle him. What the heck? I need his attention too! I am in no way saying he should ignore the baby but I just feel second best sometimes =( Anyone else feel this way?
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@beaniegdi (1966)
7 Mar 07
the love we have for our children is completely different than the love we have for our partners. it does not mean he loves you less. I think you should try to be thankfull that you have a man who actually cares enough about the baby to do this. lots of men don't want anything much to do with their children even when they are married. I think a strong loving bond between father and children can only be good for the child and ultimately for the 2 of you, believe me you would not like it if he never wanted anything to do with the baby.I thnk you are just still adjusting to your new roles as parents which is a big change from being a couple. try to grin and bear it, the time will soon come when you won't be able to wait for him to come home and look after the baby for a bit, honest!
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@shannon76 (1233)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I know what you are saying. And I am thankful he loves our son like he does. He is a wonderful father. I just think that sometimes he will put his feelings for our son abouve my feelings. Maybe I am just being a baby who knows! It is just hard because we got pregnant right away (two weeks after our wedding) so we really didn't get a chance to be a married couple before a family. Thanks for your comment!
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@leese29 (341)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I agree completley with beanie, but maybe you should try and make some time for you guys as a couple. Even if it is just after the baby goes to sleep pop in a movie and cuddle on the couch. Try and plan a date night and get a babysitter.
• United States
7 Mar 07
I completely understand how you feel, my boyfriend does the same thing with our son. If I don't ask, I don't even get a hug or a kiss these days when he comes home! During the day he use to send me text messages asking how *I* was doing, now the only time he texts me is if he needs something or to ask how our son is doing. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad he loves our son so much, but sometimes I feel like just a housekeeper/babysitter to him...