Do youmake yourself a good mother?
By caesarin
@caesarin (1089)
Indonesia
March 7, 2007 11:59pm CST
Yes, that's one question that I need to hear the answers from mothers everywhere. Do you make yourself a good mother?
I don't think so. I'm not sure if I can handle my baby alone.
So far, I only stay with my baby for about 3-4 days a week.
The rest of the days, she's staying with my mother in law.
I feel so guilty about this but still I think I'm not becoming a mother naturally.
I don't pay attention to her meal time, sometimes I forgot.
I don't pay attention how she take fruits, lately I realize that I rarely fed her fruits but my mother in law did.
And many other more that I don't think I do like other good mothers do.
It's like that I still want to enjoy myself now.
I still want play games in my PC, do my job at the office without worrying my daughter, enjoy my time with husband.
Really, this is scary coz I can't imagine how can I handle my next baby in the future, if I have it again.
So, shortly, I don't think I'm a good mother.
How about you?
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3 responses
@selina0625 (1379)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
The time I knew I was pregnant, I already promised myself that I would be the best mother I could ever be and I would give him the best life possible. I'm so sad hearing that you like to enjoy yourselfmore than to be with your kid. If I had the choice right now, I would be with my kid and raise him myself. Because of financial reason I left my kid with my parents and they take care of him. I don't feel like I'm a bad mother even if I left him so early because during the time from the day he was born till his eight months all, I've given him my undivided attention and love. He means the world to me and I'm away from him now because I want the best life for him. I hope you could feel how a mother should really feel. It feels like heaven.
@caesarin (1089)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 07
I love my daughter and like you I have to leave her for financial reason. I enjoy my job which needs me to travel sometimes. But at the same time I want to be able to go home everyday for my daughter. This feeling is complicated and overlapping that tends to confused me.
@domesticengineer (575)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
The moment I became a mom everything changed. I feel sorry that you don't feel the same way. I think you have to give yourself more time with your baby. Bonding with your baby is what you need. Aren't you afraid that when she grows up she'll never look up to you? Because even now that she's still a baby you're already creating a space between the two of you.
@lissienpaul (478)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
I feel sorry for you. I just want to be honest about it. You are missing a lot with your child. your baby may be in good hands but both of you need to have that bonding that will last in you and your baby's memory.
I am a housewife so I really have all the time to spend with my kids. Ive seen all their developments all the years of their lives. I love taking care of them no matter how hard job being a mom can be.
