mistress. would you tell the truth or lie?

The right thing is always never to hide anything from your family and loved ones... they are the ones that will always be by your side in difficult times...

Are you talking about the same idiot who asked you money? You weren't his mistress, he was your's... how is the right English word for it? A man, who is living on woman's money... Disgusting. It wasn't your fault at all, he lied about his marital status. I know, such things hurt very badly, and possibly for long time but I'm sure you'll come over it. As for telling your family now... I don't know. You know them better. It may hurt them also. It always hurts when you hear that someone you care for is cheated and treated badly. But if there is a possibility they may find out from another source, then of course is better to tell. It may be less painful for all when they hear it from you.

I would tell the truth about it..not telling the truth would be like not only lying to the people around you but also lying to yourself..I've been in that situation and had no other choice but to talk to my family about it..things got a little too out of hand..you will go through all types of changes emotionally, but you need your family to deal with something like that..there is no need to keep it from them..they may see something in the situation that you can't see because of the way you feel..

it's not ur fault. if u didn't know why would that b ur fault? i think as long as u took action once u found out then u did okay!

At the first place you did not know that you are the mistress for you think that the man you are with was still single but if I were you when you discovered that he was already married you make your self a distance for at the first place he lied on you for telling that he was still single and he will keep on doing that for he is a big lier.

This happened to me as well. I was 21 years old. Fresh off college. I met this guy 16 years older than me. Although he was quite old, he said he was single. He had a condo unit in the city. We were together for almost a year when a woman came up to me to inform me that i'm dating her husband. she was very calm and civilized. she knew i had no idea about his status. it she also seemed like she's used to informing her husband's 'mistresses' of the fact that they are dating a married man. she said she knew it wasn't my fault, but that she's begging me to break it off with her husband. and that's exactly what i did. after she informed me that my bf at that time is her husband, i confronted my then bf and he confessed. and i broke up with him. it took me almost 2 years to finally trust another man. and he betrayed as well. he didn't cheat on me, he is single, no kids. but he betrayed me nonetheless. how could one ever trust men again

I dont understand why you had to suffer. You didnt do anything wrong cos your socalled boy friend only lied to you. There are a lot of men who do this kind of thing and women, all over the world, every passing minute, get caught to their lies. How much ever we try to be cautious, still, they find loopholes.

So after you found out he had a wife and child you stayed with him? Aww hun,,thats just not cool.if im right then..aww hun..u should have ran as soon as you knew..I wouldnt have told my family as well if i was still seeing him after i knew..but if im confused..and u left when u knew then told your parents..I say its nor your fault and to blow it off..Because its not like u knew..but..again if u did stay after the fact.well i know from experience..was i was younger and stupid and didnt care about anyone but myself..Kharma caught up to me..and bit me in the bum for many years as punishment..:( But i feel for for you..whatever happend i knwo u felt trapped and confused..im not judging you..and i hope u know that,,I just know your side and made the same mistake..and hope things are better now..

At your age fifteen years back, I would not have had guits to tell the truth to my family too. Now when I look back, I understand and I would suggest to go for the truth no matter what. It may get ugly but still its your family that you can always count on. Now if this hapens I would still be afraid but will tell the truth to them before they learned from anywhere else. I wish I could instill this feeling in my kids too.

It's not really your fault. It is the guy's fault. He should have first gotten divorced, if he felt that his marriage did not work. What he did instead was very cowardly of his part. He got you involved and he ended up hurting you and his wife too.