i miss my husband so much
By ruzzen77
@ruzzen77 (57)
Philippines
March 8, 2007 6:04pm CST
for your info, my husband is working overseas. he's been there for 17 months already and i still can't cope up of the fact that he's there to work for our future. at first, i really thought that i could live without him by my side, but then after all those months that passed, i am still feeling the same feeling during the first months that he's away. i am working too besides the fact that i have two kids to take care too, but it doesn't seem to cover the feeling of my missing my husband so much. every week i would still call him and talk to him how i am feeling but why am i not feeling that he misses me too. what is comforting me now is that he never misses to go online on the internet every sunday since he's overseas. i just can't help sometimes crying just because i miss him. it really makes me feel sad to realize that he has to work overseas just to give my children a good future. but i am so proud of him withstanding all the emotional feelings that he has for us just for the family to live better.
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30 responses
@ShadyGrove (996)
• United States
9 Mar 07
That is such a long time to be apart.
How old are your kids? I hope you have
family nearby to help you endure all the
time you have to be a single parent and
be apart from your husband.
Can he not get on the internet daily?
It would be nice if you can have a video
camera on your computer so you can see
and talk with each other.
What country is he in? That's hard that
he can only come home once a year. How
long do you plan on keeping up this
arrangement? Does he plan on coming back
or you moving to be with him with your
children?
I hope you find plenty of things to do to
stay busy and I hope you have friends and
family nearby to help you. :o)
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@ruzzen77 (57)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
My husband's in south korea. he's a contract worker there and he's on his 2nd year. so sad that he can't be on the internet everyday because there are times that he's always working overtime. by the way, my kids are 5 and 3 years old. they're both boys and they really miss their father a lot, that's why i can't miss calling my husband for them to talk on the phone. i don't think that there would be a chance to move with him there coz the language in that country is not that easy to learn, it would be very difficult for all of us to stay there and never be able to understand the country's language at all. my husband himself is still having difficulty with the language. besides, my children are already in school and there's really no chance of us moving with him. we just hope that everything will work out fine..still. i really appreciate you guys reading my sentiment because just last night i cried because of this thought. it's good that i have a mylot account and pour out my sentiments here. :-)
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@cttjj2312 (69)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I am really sorry your husband is away, I hope that he has a safe and happy return for you in October.
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@amitksing (1323)
• India
9 Mar 07
You really are not in a very comfortable situation! You and your husband, you both love each other and you people have to be away from each other. I know, it really must be hurting you both a lot! I have seen a similar case in my family also. My elder brother is working abroad and my sister in law has to stay here with our family. I have seen how much they miss each other. But the slight good thing in my brothers case is that soon he is going to call his wife to live there with him. You guys are away from each other for past 17 month.. thats too much time! If I would had been facing a situation like this, I would have asked him to make some money and then return back to live with me.. see, money isn't everything!
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Mar 07
thanks to the new technology now you can chat your husband and see him through the internet...and still have phones to hear him everyday if you wishes to..its understandable missing him his your husband all you have to do is pray harder to make him safe there and always in good health its the best you could do at the moment i guess..
@carol79 (201)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
Long distance relationship is the worst situation in a marriage. I totally understand what you're going through. There were 2 times in my marriage that I was away from my husband and it ws like hell for me. It's like a feeling of longing, paranoia, depression, sadness, and can't do anything as of the moment feeling all rolled into one. During this time I suggest you try to deviate your attention and energy to something else. It's good your a working mother of 2 but maybe try joining a gym. Keep yourself busy making yourself more beautiful by going to the gym and being fit and also going to the spa and getting that ultimate treatment to make you glow so by the time your husband comes home, you would be more than perfect that he will try to be together as soon as possible.
@ProfessorPharmacist (1107)
• Egypt
9 Mar 07
My friend, you should know that if you miss your husband so much as you said, then this person does not deserve to be your husband at all!.
@hottie0728 (1732)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I know what you're feeling right now. I'm in a long distance relationship with my bf. He's been gone for three months already, he worked as a US Merchant Marine. At first it was very difficult for us especially we spend most of our time together 24/7. I just miss every little thing about him. We often chat, talked on the phone and email each other. That's the best way to cope for the loneliness. Just always keep the love alive and pray that everything will work out fine. Goodluck on us...=)
@hiswillnotmywill (260)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
i can feel your sentiment as i read through...i am not in the situation but soon i will be. my husband is applying to work abroad and the thought of him leaving makes me sad. As each day passed by the thought of it makes me weak and there are times that i feel like breaking down and cry and tell him not to pursue the plan.
But i pray that if its God's will let it be done even if its against my will, i Just pray for strength to make us through this set up and that's what you should do. you have withstand 17months already, just keep praying for protection, good health and strenght for you, your kids and your husband. :-)
@monkoshu4 (52)
• India
9 Mar 07
We all have to go through tough phases in life one time or the other. May God give you strength to face this tough time too.
@notforkid (27)
• Latvia
9 Mar 07
It is sad if you are not feeling that he misses you too. Distance make love veaker. You can't know what he feels. And i think that working overseas is not best way to eaarn money if your family is not near you. If he misses you too, that it is really good. Than when he will arrieve back home your relationships will be stronger. But if people are living far away for long time they can change a lot.
@triplep_01 (67)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I can not imagine what you are going through. I am sorry that you are feeling down. It is comendable of your husband to be by himself overseas to make a better life for you and your children. He probably does miss you as much as you miss him, but since he is a man he will not show it or he does not want to upset you anymore than you already are. I hope that he will be home soon
@0752620184 (220)
• Uganda
9 Mar 07
Oh ruzzen77, I believe u know the saying that you can't serve two masters at go. So while you husband commits himself to working overseas, he his losing the love of his children because they never get to spend time together so as to know each other, besides money does not mean every thing. He has to chose which one is more important, His job or his family.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
If you really want to have a better future, you need to sacrifice a lot.emotionally and physically.i just hope that everything will be fine with you and you can handle the missing pieces in your heart and that is ur husband presence.Just be positive and dont think too much on him!
@killersmile (75)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
i feel for you... i miss my husband too,he went to vietnam for a business trip and he left last monday but he is coming home tomorrow. and i am so excited! imagine i diddnt go out of the house the whole week. i was so depressed.
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
9 Mar 07
I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. I cannot begin to imagine what you're going through with your husband working overseas.
How often does he get to come home? Can you guys call each other often?
I can totally understand your tears. I think you're an incredibly strong person to sacrifice having your husband by your side in order to give your children a good future. It's a sad state of affairs when people have to look for jobs overseas in order to support their families.
If it makes you feel any better, I think you have much to be proud of. And I think, as hard as it is, that you're bearing up incredibly well.
Be strong!
@michele_villasenor (624)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
We're on the same boat. My husband left only two weeks after I gave birth in the hope of making our life better. I miss him terribly. We talk to each other twice a week but it doesn't seem enough. We also go online when our schedules meet but it's still not enough. I feel sorry for him because he is missing out a lot on our daughter. He always tells me that he really wants to come home soon and start playing with her. I know how true this is because he is really the type who plays with kids. In fact, his two nephews grew up playing with him all the time. It's so ironic that he can't do the same with our daughter.
@KAYLZNP20 (5)
•
9 Mar 07
well to be honest y r u still with him u obviously want more of a one on one relationship and he's not here to give it to u so u need to tell him how u feel or end it
