Long Distance Relationships

Philippines
March 9, 2007 12:34pm CST
I am in this sort of relationship because I am married to a seafarer, but for the marriage, it is working. Perhaps, it is the fact that I have a job of my own that keeps the boredom away. I have seen a lot of marriages and relationships crumble when faced with the "distance" thing. And would like to know your stand on this issue. Will a long distance relationship work for you?
8 responses
• Malaysia
9 Mar 07
For me. it's work for a while. * laugh. frankly i am too scared to be in long distance relationships. but what can i do. it also happen to me and i give her a chance to prove and trust on her. so far. our relationship is fine but there is still have some misunderstood between us and that is normal situation for this kind of relationship. hope it help you and also myself.
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
Every relationship goes through problems, my friend. Misunderstandings take place every time whether you're in a long distance relationship or not.
• Malaysia
9 Mar 07
You definitely right and i avoiding is the best way to make that feeling go away.
• United States
9 Mar 07
In your case he is a Navy man I presume and eventually will come home. Plus you work alot and he is well... on a boat no infedility issues to add confusion. It is those permanently long distance relationships that are ultimately doomed to failure. There has to be an end in sight or ultimate goal for the couple to look forward to or it is doomed.
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
Yes, he comes home every 4 months. When we first got married, it was for more than a year. Infidelity issues are faced even by couples who stay together, my friend. I know a handful whose spouses are within sight that plays with fire with another being.
@Starline (681)
• United States
9 Mar 07
Mine works out well!! Of course I count the days before we can be together (21 one until he visits for a week, 101 until forever, lol) but it's no problem right now. I do keep myself busy like you do. And it's worth it because it brings us closer, but for couples that weren't as much in love as we are I can see how it would be the excuse for them to break up.
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
yes, the anticipation of seeing the loved one again is inspiring. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, they say...and to have the nearest is not necessarily the sweetest.
@carpenter5 (6786)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I have been married for 20+ years. When my husband and I first married, he was in the Navy. He'd be gone for 3 months at a time or sometimes more. It's hard, but if both of you are committed to being faithful, it can work. My daughter and her fiancee live over an hour apart. They get frustrated when it doesn't work out where they can see each other. You just have to have committment.
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
Your daughter's situation shows that it's how both parties work t make the relationship run smoothly that counts and not the proximity of the loved one. If two people who live together can't stand to be together in the same room for a day without jumping at each other's throats, then it's time to think where the relationship is headed to.
• Canada
9 Mar 07
As long as your keep yourself busy it should work out. Its the boredom that always causes trouble.
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
Yes, because the idle mind is the devil's perfect workplace.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
9 Mar 07
i am in a long distance relationship, too. i have known this man for more than a year now and we're in this relationship for almost 11 months already. i say, our love despite the distance keeps on growing stronger every single hour of each day. and i will soon start to live a life with him by july or august this year. i've met him and had been with him for 2 weeks last year and it was the best 2 weeks of my life. and since then, our faith on our relationship just gets better everyday. i had been to 13 relationships before which are in real life. i met them all my life almost everyday. and yet, they cheated on me and the relationship fail. as of now, i might be in this long distance relationship, but i say, i am in the happiest relationship of my life and i never regretted my decision on loving him. i say, whether, offline or online, some relationships don't work and some do. everything depends on the two people in the relationship if they wanna make their relationships work.
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
I agree with you. Constant togetherness does not guarantee a successful relationship. It really just depends on the persons involved. If they're born with an infidel gene, then, they will wander even if the spouse or the loved one is within reach or within sight.
@12051976 (231)
• Ghana
9 Mar 07
Yes it works and i believe it will work for me.The most important thing is effective communication and how sincere both parties are to each other. If they think they love themselves thats it. Love is the ultimate. they can really marry it has happen so many times.
• United States
9 Mar 07
I dated my husband over the internet before we got married. It did work for us. I believe if you both stay honest to each other and keeping in touch with each other, the relationship will work.