Divorced men get hurt too

Yes we do. I am well over my divorce. I paid child support for about 10 years...almost $70,000, including my daughter's braces, medical bills and just spending my own money on her. As a result, my ex remarried, fixed up her house(she got from the divorce) bought a summer vacation home, and bought a memebership in some travel cluband ha gone to Hawaii and Florida on the cheap. We are friends and it is all in the past. But, you are right...both parties lose something in a divorce.

yeah financial issues are real however, people panic and forget what matters too much I figure just be totally broke, then when and if a woman really loves me, THEN fix all her problems, financial and otherwise. If she is shallow and heartless and stupid, I don't even want her.

I agree with you that the men can get hurt just as easily as women do. We may not hear it as much in the news as you hear about women getting hurt by men but it definitely does happen out there where the woman does some mean and wrong things to cause problems in the relationship. There are some evil women out there just like there are evil men out there too.

Hopefully some day society will understand that men have it hard too. For now it's all about the woman for some reason.

I agree with you. Society and the law seems to always be on the side of the woman, and that's just plain unfair. I agree that men should support their children, but they should not be forced into poverty to pay alimony and child support. In this day and age, the woman should be expected to find child-care and get a full-time job; there is no way that a man should have to support her after a divorce. He is responsible for the children, not his ex. In many cases, the children turn on their father because the mother bad-mouths him and poisons their minds against him. It is so unfair to use children as weapons during and after a divorce. If a couple wants to split, they should each be financially independent and work together to make the best life that they can for their children.

Yes, I have to agree with you. It does happen to men a lot. This does not happen to all of the of course, but there are some who really and truley get the raw end of the deal. I wish that they were not so looked down apon.

Yes the Children catch it it is sad. people don't take the time out to make a marriage work, that's why we have so many divorces. amd then the kids don't understand. that can really mess a child up by watching their parents go through this. They get confused.

Well as you know Margie I am divorced, but no way did I ever stop the Kids seeing him as you know they where old enough to make up their own mind, all he paid was for my Daughter as my Son was working then he was 17 and to keep the House I refused half of his Army Pension and I got all the Debts which where made through his Social Life and things like that, which mounted to £14ooo = about $28000 and a Mortgage £28000= about $56000 I am still trying to get straight now after 5 years. But you are right there are Men out there that are being ripped of, my Friends Son was one of them.

Yes I agree there are times that men get the shaft from women. I only personally know of one case. The women took her ex for every penny he was worth. She is still getting money from him and she has money coming out of her ears.

Yes, you are so right Margie. I had a wonderful neighbor who was a single father. He was raising his daughters because he and his wife divorced and she was not fit to raise them. Of course any time he disciplined the girls they were "going to go live with their mother" which he had to sit and explain why they couldn't do that. It was a heart-wrenching story to watch. He longed for 'family life' and was determined to give them a good life. PLUS, he had to pay that darned woman alimony because she had no trade and couldn't 'support herself.'