ever fail to understand people?

actually, i was like your friend, i dont want them to see me sad. i always pretend that i'm happy and no problem at all... i dont know if others understand me.

Alot of people fail to understand me I was alot like that girl you are talking about I am a pretty good judge of character and have learnt to read Body Language and so I can read some people like a book. I have always sat back and observed others but acted out to hide my true self at times... There's an old saying Never judge a book by it's cover, it is the same for people.....

I don't think any of us can ever fully understand another..We are all so complex, on every little detail of every atom that makes up our being. Biological factors..environmental factors..our 'unique only upon ourselves' soul. Everything in our life helps to shape that molding that is only us. Sometimes, people say and do hurtful things to others that isn't really personal at all. But it doesn't erase the fact that we feel it personally. If someone, for example, was abused as a child and lives a hard life unbenounced to others, and that person says hurtful and mean things to you, they are probably using you as a scapegoat, an outlet for their feelings..Doesn't make what they are doing 'right' to you -but it can help you see where the 'why' really lies. We all have to vent our negative emotions and feelings out on other things..sometimes those 'other things' end up being other people. It still hurts to hear those hateful things said/done to you..But knowing that it may be due more to an outlet of pain, by knowing a bit of their life, it can help you see that it's probably not as personal towards 'you' as it feels. And that can help to lesson the hurt you may have felt at the time.. The kicker, i found, is that life seems to get more complicated with age..when i thought i would understand things more with time. Yet, things do start to make more sense as well. Life is one big oxymoron! :)

Dear it is impossible to understand people. They are so complex and they arn't like reading a book ya know? When I was in highschool a few years ago I had major depression issues but no one ever knew because I hid it behind what people who suffer from depression call a "false face" or a "mask". Untill finally one day I acted on my depression and took a bunch of pills, the next day a few people I was close to noticed and were there to support me and to help me get better. Up untill that point everyone thought I was happy go lucky and ready to help everyone solve their problems when I really couldn't solve my own. So you can't really understand people...to do that would be an amazing ability.

Oh yes, I have experienced that just lately. I have a problem student in my class. She would always give me a headache. She seems to be very happy-go-lucky and just goes to school to have fun with her friends. She failed miserably in my exams and she didn't submit the extra credit work which I asked her to do (which would pull her grade up). She made me wait on that work but until the end of the quarter period, she didn't submit it. Apparently, she's also the same in her other subjects. When I exchanged experience with an experienced co-teacher who knows the students well, she told me that this student is undergoing a family problem these days. Her parents are always fighting, and it seems like they're going to divorce. This affects my student so much but she doesn't show it. This time I understood her. This got me to think. Perhaps I should have thought better, that there could be an explanation for her lack of interest in studies. This is a learning experience for me. Happy myLotting!

Suppose, before I confirm my speculations, I analyze the person. I don't want to have a wrong impression of others. When that person was the one who shows or admit what's his/her personality, then that was the only time I will finalize my thoughts for him/her. I always try everything to understand others but sometimes, they were the ones who fails to understand me.

yes |I think it has happened to all of us, but if a person did something wrong to you and you didn't know why you have no reason to feel guilty she was wrong. You may forgive her now that you know why she did what she did, but you do not have to feel guilty. You are not a mind reader.

that girl is something more than just a girl!naadia you should learn something from her!when your boyfriend cheated you,i know it hurts but if that girl has same situation she may handle it smoothly than you...i am not blaming you ...i just figure out... you should say her sorry and make a best friendship..best of luck!

You shouldn't say sorry but take with you that knowledge, and let it reflect in your future actions towards her, or around her. Anyone, compassion is always good to have, and thoughtfulness, it's easier not to get mad at others when you know they don't understand you and you don't understand them and react based on the two different perspectives of the world. Her world is different from your world, as mine is yous, everyone does things for a reason, even the crazy-because their crazy. Everyone has a story take it from there. I hope everything goes well.

Hello naadia!(",) It's better not to judge the person when you don't know him/her well. I really try my best to understand everyone around me but there are times when misunderstandings arise. Hope that you are doing good and still friends until now. Have a great day!(",)

Yes, I have actually met a person like that in my life. He sat beside me in Science class, and used to make fun of me relentlessly, it was awful, he called me fat and told me that he wanted me to get anorexic and that I had a brain the size of a pea. I cried a lot because of him. But then I realized that he has had a lot of problems with his family, and although he was a genius, his parents often neglected him. I felt sympathy for him as I am also from a family like that, my parents are never around either, I felt that he was a strong person, and had overcome a lot of things in his life. Nevertheless, I knew that he would not appreciate the sympathy I held for him, so I showed him respect, and tried instead to show him that it is strong of him to keep living his life and not asking for help.