What is the right time and age to get married?

@eeyahh (17)
Philippines
March 10, 2007 3:32pm CST
Im really bothered by this question. Im only 20 years old and my mom already wanna have a grad son/grand daughter. Im graduating in college and still looking for job. My mom made a tip not to marry late because of the hormonal changes in the body. I need help!
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• Canada
11 Mar 07
My sister was only 19 when she got married, and her husband was 21. Now they have been married for almost 10 years, and things are absolutely perfect!! My cousin is 27, and will be married next month. I'm 25, and hoping. ;-) I think it all depends on the people, and on the situation. There is no right age to get married, it's up to the individual.
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@breepeace (3024)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
Women are capable of having children into their mid 30's and later. It's odd that your mom is putting the pressure on you to have kids so young. While I know many parents are excited about the prospect of having grandchildren running around, most would want their own children to hold off until they're in a stable career and relationship. I think it's prudent to hold off on marriage and until at least your mid twenties. I think back to the way I looked at the world at 20 and although I wanted so badly to settle down and get married, I think I was really just wanting my life to be stable instead of the crazy unsure whirlwind it often is at 20. Not much time has passed, I'm only 23 now, but I think I'm eons away from that mindset. I'd still like to get married, but I had a topsy turvy 3 years where I learned a lot about myself and the world. It also helped me realize a guy I'd discounted years ago was someone worth putting my time into, and that's been rewarded 10 fold.
@12051976 (231)
• Ghana
12 Mar 07
A your age it not bad to marry but i think you need to prepare psychologically, emotional and financially well before getting marriage. i will not stress too much on the financial aspect but you must get something doing that will bring you an income to cater for yourself. i will strongly advise that don't rush into it, You may regret. Just take your time and choose the one that you think you really love no matter who he is. True love = long and happy marriage. Stay blessed
• India
11 Mar 07
've always been of the opinion that a person should never marry until after their 21st birthday, (personal experience, being legally allowed to drink can change a person's behavior.) I'm also not big on marrying your first serious or long term partner (also personal experience) When it comes right down to it, though, age is not the issue you need to consider. Dont get married because you think its something you're supposed to do, or because you've been with a person for a significant length of time and it seems like the next logical step, and dont get married because you feel 'passionate' about that person. a marriage is more like a business agreement where you each agree to take on certain responsibilities. (only you *really* like your business partner.) It doesnt matter what age you are, but you have to have the maturity to understand when to hold your ground or when to let something go....a good test of this is to find someone older than you, who knows both of you and ask them if they think you're ready....if you get a lot of negative reactions, as frustrating as it is, you're probably not ready. on the other hand, if people seem to be thrilled for you, great. (pre-marriage councelling is also a must, even if it's not faith-based, you can never have too much support!)
• United States
11 Mar 07
i'm also 20. i'm engaged and we're waiting until i graduate to get married. our date is 8-22-09. so by then i'll be 22. my future-brother-in-law and his wife got married at 19 and are now getting a divorce at 22. i don't think you should get married before you are allowed to drink at your own wedding.
@TiChan (59)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I don't think there is 'right' time or age to get married. You get married when you're ready. When you have found the right person to love forever and you both want it, that's when you get married. Has nothing to do with your age...or the fact that your mother wants a grandbaby, lol.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Tell your mom you'll get married when you are ready, and don't go rushing into marriage just because she wants a grandkid. I know people who didn't have kids until 35, and I wouldn't mind doing the same thing! Most people around me don't have kids til at least 26, so you should tell your mom to just chill out. Times are different than they used to be, people don't have kids at 20 that much anymore and are actually encouraged to wait until they are about 25 or older.