Why does this bother me?

@Aurone (4757)
United States
March 10, 2007 5:41pm CST
I have been (mostly) happily married for almost two years now to a good guy that I do love. The issue is that a guy that I previously completely adored and loved with all my soul (who obvious didn't want me as he let me walk away--although I hear he was depressed a for a year after I left--I moved across the country) has been dating a friend of mine for the past year and she didn't tell me about it. They are going to be married in the Fall. I know I shouldn't care, but for some reason I do. Anyone have any advice about this or a similar tale to tell?
4 responses
@ironstruck (2299)
• Canada
10 Mar 07
I would say live and let live. How happy would you have been anyway if he did not feel the same as you and married you anyway? That marriage may have been doomed from the start. Now as you say, you are happy in your marriage and you should wish the same for him in his marriage.
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
11 Mar 07
You are right. I guess the news just took me by surprise. Thanks.
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
i think its very natural to feel something, maybe it hurts you knowing that he is going to be married because he became part of your life and somehow you have shared a happy memories and love each other before. As for now it will just pass, that feeling soon will be gone. You have to move on with your beloved partner now and forget about it.
• Singapore
11 Mar 07
Since this is already in the past, I think it would be wise for you guys to move on. It's great that now you are already happily married. It's ok that they didn't tell you that they were now dating. Afterall, it's their business and they need not tell anyone if they didn't want to. It would be best for you to focus on your spouse instead. :)
@Taskr36 (13923)
• United States
11 Mar 07
The way you feel is natural. You just have to look at it logically. You moved on, so why shouldn't he? I know you want him to pine over you for the rest of his life, we all want that from our exes, it's just not going to happen.