how would you cope infertility?

Adoption is not the easy answer that it was 30-40 years ago. very few (less than 50) healthy infants were adopted out in my city last year. 1 in 4 birth mothers changes their minds. If you adopt privately, the birth mother gets to havee a say in the name of the child and keeps in touch with the child for the rest of his or her life, so basically, the adoptive parent becomes a glorified babysitter with the all important birth mom looking over their shoulder all the time. Adopting internationally can cost up to 30,000$ US and countries can close at no moments notice. It's not easy to adopt. This doesn't even take into consideration that difficulty some parents have to go through of getting over the feeling that adoption is not "second best".

We adopted but we adopted as close to a new born as we could get. Our sons were three months old when we got them. I wish they had been newborn, because I missed that part and often was afraid because I did not have the experience of waking up to a newborn at two am or every few hours, that our sons would die in their sleep and I would be sound asleep. It did not happen but there was that fear nevertheless. Also I felt that if the boys were on an airplane and it crashed, I would be unaware until the news came and there was a knock on our door because if I had been a "real" mother, I would have bonded and known instantly. I also found that even though people say now you have adopted you can relax and stop trying, you never do. you think that you are like Sarah and Elizabeth in the Bible and that you will get pregnant, the National Enquirer will be knocking at your door, etc.

Yes I am going through that right now. I have had 6 miscarriages and as of right now the doctors have no explanation for me as of why. They are doing a Celiac Disease test on me right now to see if that could be the reason for it. My husband and I are going to adopt just as soon as we get the money saved. We may decieded to adopt through through the foster care program because the state pays for the adoption. Whoever it's extremely rare that you're able to adopt a newborn. And I would love to adopt a newborn. Therefore we may adopt out side of the country.

Quite honestly, I would jump for joy. I'd never have to worry about getting pregnant again. My endochrinologist thinks I may have polycystic ovary syndrome and I'm going to my Gyno nurse in a couple days to get it checked.

1. Embryo or sperm donation 2 Test tube baby 3. Adoption