Does the pain ever just go away? Or is there a day you just dont think about it?

no the pain never goes but you can do bettter with getting along person who loves you and whom you love

When my grandma with whom I was very close to passed away, it took me a while to absorb the reality that I would never be with her. Until now, 4 years later, I have dreams wherein she is alive and I'd wake up thinking that she's still is and make plans to see her. Yes, the pain goes away, it gets better. It helps to think that your loved ones wouldn't feel happy about your being depressed and all. I just think about what my grandma would like me to do and feel,and it helped me move on. I hope it will do the same for you..

As Monty Python once said, 'Always look on the bright side of life.' The pain does not completely fade away but you have to keep it in the back of your mind. I've lost some close family members so I can sympathize with you. This might seem cruel, but you have to move on in life. Depressing over the past will not get you further in life. You'll inflict more pain on others. You've just got to remain optimistic.

First of all, blessings to all of you who are greiving! My thoughts are with you. Heather, it's been brought up here a few times that your Grandpa and your Mom wouldn't want you to be unhappy, and I agree. Don't feel guilty about living a full and happy life. It's not an insult to their memory; in fact, it's an honorarium! Live your life to the fullest in memory of them! I, too, believe our loved ones who have passed on never leave us. You carry them in your heart, and by doing that, they live on. As noted in a previous post, group therapy is wonderful. It relieves a lot of pressure learning you're not the only one who has the feelings you're having. Perhaps you can check with your church, synagogue, mosque, or hospital to find information on support groups in your area. Sharing memories of your loved ones is also a way to heal. Honoring them with memories softens the pain. You've been a very fortunate person to have had such special people in your life. Respect their memories with joy. They would be honored to know their love has made you happy, not sad. Bless you, Heather! Heal well!!

Accept what ever God(existence) gives you.

You should talk to a specialist, you need to find closure to come to terms with what happened. I had an ex who lost her father at a very young age and even 15 years after loosing him she still heavily dwelled on it, it hindered her ALOT.. There is plenty you can do, I'm sure they wouldn't want you getting sadder and sadder.. you should see a specialist and talk explain to them how you feel they will help you learn how to get some closure, now closure doesn't mean you will forget them.. it just means you come to terms with them passing on. Your thoughts of them should be happy not sad. We should remember our lost loved ones with happiness the joys we had with them, not with sadness and remorse.

Hey heatheer, it is hard to deal with. But look at it this way, we all have to leave earth...ur mom just left a litle early. Heaven is waay better than earth. Make ur mom proud in living ur life well on earth and reaching great heights

there is something you can do! you can live, you can be happy, you can smile and have a great life. if they were here that is what they would be telling you anyway. you can't live in the past and the what ifs. because yesterday is gone. you have to deal with the here and now. I am not being harsh. I lost both my parents just 20 days apart. I know what you are talking about. but i know my parents. and they would not have been happy with me if i wasn't being the happiest I can be. so you want to honor your loved ones. do great things with your life. and you will do them proud

i know it is painful and hard to forget worst is theres nothing you can do about them coz there in their resting place now. i know its hard but for sure pain will go away just accept the fact that they are gone now and wont come back no matter what. think of the good times you had with them and always put them in your heart. whereever they now wont be happy if seeing you still sad. the best thing for u to do is let go and go on with your life, your still here and life is full of happiness if only you let it come in. they are watching you now and for sure guide you just include them in your prayers. your still young and for sure you have lots to offer in this world, each one of us has the reason why we are still here alive and kicking. hope one day sooner pain will just go away. godbless!

I have to tell you Heather, I experienced loss the same way you did and the only thing that I can tell you is that everything will never be the same and you will continually have that feeling like the same time everytime you think of it you feel the same as the time it first happened. My loss include my son my dad and my grand ma, all of these happened within 2 to 3 months of each other in 88. My relief for this is the love I have for them and the thought of them still alive, yes I actually have the true meaning of them all being alive within the people that loves them and also the love that I have for them will always live within me. Time has passed amd I still have those days that I feel really bad but at the end of the day I know they are loved and alive within me.

First let me tell you I am sorry for your loss. I lost my grandparents when I was 14. My grandparents were living with us since I was a baby so in a sense it was like losing my 2nd set of parents. I loved them a great deal. I had a really hard time after their passing, but now I am 29 and for some time now I have been able to talk about it and talk to my dad about all the memories he and I both have of them. It helps if you have family to talk to about it. If you don't I would also suggest a friend or maybe minister. It does help to talk about it. I love talking and telling my kids about how much my grandpa loved to garden. I try to pass on what I learned from him to them. He was a farmer, so he knew his stuff, LOL. I hope some of what I have said can help you ease the pain, at least for just a little while.

I lost my husband August of 78, my father August of 93, and my boyfriend August of 95. So as you can tell, the month of August is really hard for me. The pain does get better I promise. Just focus on the good times. And if you keep getting more depressed, seek medical help. I had to. I got to the point that I didn't want to go on but with medication and counselling, I am much better and realize that I was blessed to have each and every one of them in my life even if for a short time.

Yours is an abnormal situation! Things start becoming normal after six months.Things may be slightly different if the person has some feeling of guilt and pity resulting therefrom .It aggravates if the person feels lonely for somereason. Still

i think we are all different in the way we handle the loss of a loved one i lost my son in 93 and somedays im fine while other days it feels as if it just happened yesterday i went and saw a therapist for awhile afterwards but it was hard to talk about my feeling with a complete stranger what helps me is to talk with a close friend or family member they also have support groups of people who have also lost a loved one and even though they are also strangers i felt it comforting just to sit in and listen and to hear that they were feeling alot of the same things i was so good luck to you i hope you can find some type of closure

It is not easy when a loved one leaves us and we tend to grieve at the slightest thought of them. Time is a great healer and we have to carry on with our own lives and try not to remember too much of our lost loved ones.

All you have to do is to take a time with yourself. Nothing is permanent here in this world. Letting go is a part of breaking up. No matter how we love the person we can't make them back because it's their time to rest. I love to see my grandpa dying than suffering from pain.

The pain will start to fade eventually. The memories never will. You should start to try and move on though, because if you hang on to this for too long, it will start to consume you, and thats not good. Always remember the good times you shared with both these people, and know that they wouldn't want you to be tearing yourself apart like this.

This pain, lives right in the middle of the heart. Its like a special touch button that when hit, make the tears start streaming down your eyes. I know cos I have lost my beloved grandma and uncles too. This pain is the compassion that is built up in you. It is good that it is around, cos in times when you need, it comes as a strength. I do not wish that they were around, and I wish that they were around. haha contradicting but truthful. Practically, you know that you wouldn't want them to stay beyond their time, but in the heart, you know that they never left. Live life with a full heart, heatheer. Know that they are in your heart and up there watching you, hoping that you can experience all the goodness of life that they have been through. Cheers

i don't think that it will ever going to stop

Hello my friend! You know one thing if anyone is thinking on their past they wont have peace on their mind. if you start to think about the future, you wont success in daily life.. sorrow is the thing we will have on each and every ones daily life. One thing you have to remember that, ´we are always alone. even our shadow will leave us alone in the night´.. we(human) are here (world) to face all kind of things. life is the mixture of happy and sorrow, we have to take everything as same. So, pease dont think about the past. Concentrate on your daily life, that make you happy always.