My boyfriends driving is awful

@maximax8 (31157)
United Kingdom
March 11, 2007 5:08pm CST
My boyfriend is a very dangerous driver. Once a policeman followed him home thinking he was drunk. Another time he almost hit three people walking over a road. He got very angry one time and shook the steering wheel of his car. His car moved around in a very scary way. Many time has he driven the wrong way down a one way street. I often feel very unsafe in his car. Waht would you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend drove their car in such a terrible way?
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@xXmeganxX (4421)
11 Mar 07
id just do the simple thing and not get in the car with them, id rather keep myself safe than get hurt! my partner's friend drives like a maniac and when they ask me to get in the car i just refuse, i have been in his car before and i was terrified, lol! =)
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@kavi112 (232)
• India
12 Mar 07
firstly i would not let my girlfriend drive if she is such an awful driver..first.. for her safety..then for my safety.. and then the public...just tell your bf that driving this way may be of so much fun...but things doesnt remain this way..some unfortunate day something might happen for which you and people around you will regret the rest of the life...(thank god my gf doesnt know to drive)
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@Stringbean (1273)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I wouldn't be riding anywhere with him, ever again, and I would tell him why. A young man in our church recently was driving his girlfriend when he went off the road and the young man was killed and the girlfriend severely injured. They never did determine the cause of the accident as there were no witnesses and the girl doesn't remember the accident at all. Suppose, in your case, an accident happened and you were killed, or even just injured. Can you imagine how your boyfriend would feel then, but it would be too late. He doesn't sound very mature so you need to take action now and refuse to ride with him. If it makes him angry, tell him that since he won't protect your life when you are with him, it is up to you to do it yourself.
11 Mar 07
dump him - Dump him and move on
Ask yourself, do you really want to be with a guy who behaves like this? You say you feel unsafe with him, then you really have to think carefully about whether you want to be with a guy who has no regard for your safety. Sorry hun, but I would dump him and find someone who is a little more caring.
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@ironstruck (2299)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
For starters, I would refuse to get in the same car that he is driving. I'm assuming you drive and if you do, tell him you will only go out with him if you drive or else you take another mode of transportation. It simply is not worth it when he is an accident waiting to happen. It sounds like he may have some issues to deal with. Don't risk your life or safety for anyone. It is your life. YOU control it.
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• United States
12 Mar 07
I do not mean to be racist, but is your boyfriend Asian? Most of my ex-boyfriends were Asian and they could not drive for the life of them. Anytime my family has been in auto accidents, it has always been an Asian behind the wheel. Most of my Asian friends even admit that Asians are bad drivers.
• United States
12 Mar 07
Has your boyfriend been taught how to drive? Is he a nervous man?
• India
11 Mar 07
First of all I would like to say that there is something wrong with your boyfriend.You should take him to a good doctor. When it comes to my girl friend,if i know that she is an unsafe driver,i would not allow her to drive.Instead i would 'take care' of the car.Not just that,i would explain her the serious effects of mad driving.That's it....if he/she is not going to listen to you then simply pretend to give up your relationship if he/she doesn't hold your advice
@tess1960 (2386)
• United States
11 Mar 07
How are you going to feel when he hits a child and the child lives but is deformed or paralyzed for life. How will you be able to live knowing you might have been able to prevent the childs harm. What if you are blamed also because you were in the car. Call a drivers education place and make an appt. to take classes together. But first call him and ask him to go to anger management classes with you and when he asks why, tell him you want to try to understand his behavior when he is behind the wheel of a car and learn how to deal with him when he gets that way. the best advice so far (responses) was to GET RID OF HIM! If you love him and he really loves you he will listen and try to be more careful. If he won't there isn't any love there and he is just wanting to control you. Controlling your emotions by making you scared may be a turn-on for him.
@tboner23 (121)
• United States
12 Mar 07
hahah that is crazy. If there was ever a stereotype about woman being bad drivers he definantly would prove that wrong. Being that crazy on the road isn't safe at all. You should suggest him to think a little more about his life and your life next time you get in the car...
• United States
12 Mar 07
wow. And they always say women can't drive. My boyfriend isn't quite as extreme as yours. But he does scare me sometimes. He tailgates people really bad, and he is the most hypocritical driver. He yells at people for doing the same thing he does. If I were you I would just do all of the driving. And it sounds to me like he needs to take a driving class or something...maybe a refresher course :).
• India
12 Mar 07
u better drive......
• India
12 Mar 07
At an international women's conference the topic for discussion was: How to empower women in the home. The first speaker was the British representative. She stood up and said, "I decided to make a stand against my husband's oppression and so I told him that I would no longer be doing the washing. After the first day I saw no result; after the second day I saw nothing; but after the third day he did his own washing." The delegates applauded this brave stand for women's rights. The second speaker was from America. She stood up and said, "I told my husband that I was no longer prepared to cook for him as it was a form of enslavement. After the first day I saw no result, after the second day I saw no result; but after the third day he cooked a meal for the both of us." Again the conference applauded. Next came the Australian delegate. She said, "I told my husband that I would no longer be doing the shopping. After the first day I saw nothing, after the second day I saw nothing; but after the third day I could see a little bit out of my left eye."
@swatrat (15)
• India
12 Mar 07
The first thing i would do to stop my girlfriend from driving crazy would be advising her not to drive in this manner...i would explain the value of life and how important she means to me in my life.....i will explain her the drawbacks and various consequences that would happen ask a result of rash driving.... will make herself to feel there is more things to be acheived in life rather than these crazy and dangerous things...tell her that your craziness shouldnot affect other people in public..while driving in road,it is drivers responsibilty to drive very carefully and see that public life should be given more importance....would tell some examples of worst accidents because of these some stupid drivers..would give her a hug and tell her she means everything in this world and no one else cannot replace her....please change your style of driving at least for the sake of me......
• India
12 Mar 07
Well I wud sit with her and just make sure she doesnt drive as rashly as ur boyfriend. If you dont sit that will make your Bf overconscious of his driving and that may result in accidents . When you decide to not to accomany him/her while driving , in a way you are discouraging him. So just make sure he doesnt kill or hurt anyone.
12 Mar 07
Ouch, sounds dreadful! My boyfriend is thankfully a very good driver and I trust him completely. He does fall victim to a bit of road rage once in awhile, but he's usually pretty easy to calm down. If I were in your situation, I definitely would not get in the car with him. Obviously, this could pose a big problem, as he may be offended. Also, anytime you went anywhere together it would mean you had to drive. I would say that you should sit him down and let him know how you feel, but it sounds like he has already been warned about his reckless driving, so I'm not sure it would do any good. I would have a hard time dating someone whom I felt unsafe with or whom I knew was putting other people at risk by his dangerous behavior. I really feel for you and I hope the situation can be resolved and that no one gets hurt!
@unrool (2)
• Australia
12 Mar 07
First thing you should do is let him know how you feel. Clearly state that you do not trust his driving and that he should do a driving course. If after he does the course and nothing changes then simply refuse to get into the car with him. If you have seperate cars then drive your car or catch a bus. This way you are making a stand and he will hopefully realise you are serious.
@vanities (11409)
• Davao, Philippines
12 Mar 07
well of course i wont go with for a ride thats for sure i value my life...and if he will not change his way then i must break with him...hes not a disciplined man
@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
12 Mar 07
Take a cab. He seems a temperamental guy from the above descriptions. Its best to make him realise what he has been doing. But judging from the above scenarios, I wouldn't think that he would listen. Its better to be on the safe side, then sorry.
• Indonesia
12 Mar 07
you can drive the car and don`t give it to him all people don`t need accident or maybe you can drive your car self and find new boy hehehe
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
12 Mar 07
well you can try talking to him to see if he will change or at least drive better when you are in the car but if that does not work then do the next best thing and don't drive with him as much as you don't want to see him hurt you don't want to get hurt your self
• India
12 Mar 07
In my life I have been with a heck lot of dangerous driver but each time I try to escape from such experiences I get to face one then and there and as I do not want to show people that I am a scaredy cat I always have to sit behind such people. Most of the time these guy are bikists and also some times they are car drivers. I hate it but can't help it. I have thought of a solution and that is that I have started learning driveing so that next time when I have to go somewhere I won't have to sit behind somebody and it will be me choosing. So thats what I suggest you as well, that you learn driving and each time you have to out with your boyfriend then just ask him to let you drive for then. Take Care May GOD Bless YOU