calling all single mums... please read and give me some advice!!

@xXmeganxX (4422)
March 11, 2007 7:18pm CST
hey single mum's how are you all? i hope your doing great anyway as this is a hard and rewarding job you have!! well here's my little story i want to tell you. im going to try and me it short! well here we go, soon well at the end of this month, im going to experience the single mum parenting as im ending my realtionship with my partner! if you want to know more about this and why, please read my discussion on " relationship problems" and that tells you everything, thanks! right now im worrying in a way that being a single mum is going to be exhausting and very hard for me, as so far im suffering from depression and since my daughter was born ive been with her partner and had a little bit of help, i wouldn't say he was brilliant in helping me out like! so please share your advice and tips with me and just to let you know my daughter is nearly 2 soon for all who don't know! thanks in advance! =)
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
12 Mar 07
its not easy sometimes megan. im a single mom since 18 years, but its worth it believe me. you get used to it soon. think on that: you have only yo and your daughter to take care of, no more worries about being hitted or something else. peace and quiet times. more time for your daughter, go out with her without being controlled every time. lots of things to find out. try to go to a group with other single parents, they do lots together. i think when you do step by step, you soon get rid of your depression. and if nothing other helps, we are all here for you. "big shoulders" to lean on. ;-)
@xXmeganxX (4422)
12 Mar 07
thanks alot for your response marlyse and your kind words, the most thing im looking forward to is my freedom because as soons as im on my own well a few weeks later, im going to see the auntie with the 9 kids and with my sister and my daughter wil be excited because she loves kids and she hasn't even met them really, the last time i was down there was when my daughter was about 5 months old! i will look forward to them groups they seem good a lady was telling me about them in my neighbourhood a few months back! =)
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
14 Mar 07
wow thats great. i love visiting family with my kids too. and im glad you have these groups there too.
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@xXmeganxX (4422)
14 Mar 07
me too hehe! thanks for responding marlyse! =)
@Debs_place (10524)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I spent 14 years as a single parent, and it was tiring, but at the same time it was liberating. There was only 1 adult to deal with. I called the shots. It was good, I made the decisions, there was no one to argue with when I made a decision. We had a house that was filled with love and caring, not stress and tension. The little my ex- contributed to the running of the house was not missed considered how much more stress and work he created. You will do fine,if oyu are dealing with depression, go to a doctor, get some help. I would not go back and change it at all. I think because of being a single parent, my son and I have a much closer relationship then would have been if we had a 2 parent family. My son has learned what not to do in a relationship from his father.
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@xXmeganxX (4422)
12 Mar 07
that's great news to hear your keeping well debs, im sure i will manage but im jsut a little worried as ive never been on my own really with my daughter before! im already on anti depressants and have seen my doctor, he was the one who prescribed me them! im feeling a little better on this medication too! i hope all goes well for me and it will be easier plus i like the idea of me just making the rules myself, it should be alot easier like you explained! thanks alot for responding! =) +
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Well dear, I've been a single mother for 15 years. I must say it is very difficult at times but then I think what life was like with my ex-husband. Single is much better, he was abusive to me and the children. The hardest part is being both mother and father but big helps with this is to take time out for yourself. Let your parents, other family, or friends help you - don't feel like you have to do everything every second. Advantages of being single = kids can't play one parent against the other unless you let them, you don't have to go to the other parent on desissions, one less person to cook and clean for, and you can do and eat all the things he didn't like to do or eat.
@xXmeganxX (4422)
12 Mar 07
thanks you very much faith for your response, i really appreciate it but im sure there will be alot of good advantages of being a single mum because as you said you can do and eat what you like, i will be able to because im just leaving from an abusive relationship and really i can't wait to see the back of him! im sure i will be abe to manage and get help off family well my sister and cousins because that's all i speak too! x well done to you faith also i bet your a great mum! =)
@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
17 Dec 07
I haven't read your post in relationship problems so don't know why you are breaking up but can I just say that if he is not hurting you or the baby in any way that you should be very sure you are doing the right thing. OK? As for advice, I am not a single mu but my daughter is and I see how hard it is for her. Your baby is only 2 and we all know about the terrible twos. If you have family that will help you it would be a good idea to call on them. A single parent has a big job. It is 24 hours a day 7 days a week and no respite. Make sure your judgment has not been clouded by you depression. Talk to your doctor. If you are sur that this is the right thing for you then I wish you all the luck in the world. http://womensbusiness-maggie.blogspot.com