Woman on Top
By cdparazo
@cdparazo (5765)
Philippines
March 12, 2007 10:44am CST
Do you think most successful women has less chance of having a successful relationhip? What could be the reason?
I noticed in the previous company that I worked with wherein most of our VP's were women and that most of them have broken marriages. I started to wonder something along the line that the reason for their broken marriages could be their success in their careers. I couldn't fault them as mothers because I could just see how attentive and how they spend time with their kids. They were not the type who relied on the nanny as far as taking care of their kids. I couldn't also say that the reason could be the hurt ego of their husbands because most of them have husbands who are also successful in their chosen profession and fields. So could it be that they are too intelligent for their own good and have their own minds? They are not really the type who would submit blindly to their husbands but would argue or defend their point until they would reach a certain compromise. One of our SVP who seem to the one of the few women whose marriage is still intact told me that the wife should always submit to her husband no matter what she thinks and feels. It was even stated in the Bible according to Her. Was she right? What do you think?
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@anonymili (3138)
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6 Jun 07
The last company I worked for had a female chairman worth over £80 million who was in her 40s, had been happily married for years and had 4 adopted children. In my previous firm, many of the senior staff and board members were women and were happily married or happily single. I think in this day and age it is much more common for women to have senior positions and be able to balance work and home life. The men that can't handle successful women in their lives don't deserve to have those women in their lives, it is, after all, 2007, women are even allowed to vote these days LOL.
Incidentally I hold a management position and my husband is self employed but we earn the same money. We take equal responsibility for our household decisions but we know when one of us is more capable of dealing with a situation as we know each other's strengths and weaknesses well enough not to compete over important decisions. x
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
I like the way you put it that you and your husband knows each others strengths and weaknesses, that you compliment each other. There in no competition and it takes a secure man to acknowledge that. I do agree with you that men who can't handle successful women don't deserve such kind of woman. A lot of men here in the Philippines are still like that.
@ibsnet (1268)
• India
6 Jun 07
It's human nature of ambition. When anyone rising wants to rise more and can't be bound to by any walls. Just my experience, may vary with others, women once get the self confidence they thrive and when on top they want to go more high irrespective of family, friends or even love. And this causes a ego clash in the family. Actually this should not happen we all have equal freedom to go high. But somewhere there still have the truth underlying that some men does not tolerate that his wife is going more high than he is. This is one of the most found reason for unsuccessful relationship for successful women. Human being is to be more civilised than to be modern to think over the basic relationship, the love that makes their bonds of men and women into husband and wife. I think for successful relationship for successful women, men and women both have to be more close to think off their personal relation apart from their busy corporate life.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
I quite agree with you that both men and women should not forget about their relationship and should spend time getting closer to each other despite their busy schedule. Most of the time, they become strangers to each other because they become too pre-occupied with success and career. If one would just take time for nurturing ones family and relationship then one could have a successful career and a relationship.
@magnet (2087)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I don't think so if she is married to a strong secure man. I think that every marriage needs balance if the successful woman can balance her career with her family she should have a successful marriage. Now according to the bible I interpret it as submit yourselves one to another meaning respect each other by submitting to each other. The man should not always submit and the woman should not always submit it's a joint thing. They should communicate and compromise to one another.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Biblically speaking, women must be submissive to their husbands, but I don't think it mentioned there that women should lose their self individuality and independence while at it, as some interpret it that way.I think generally, men are not used to the idea of women being more successful than them, and that's where the problem starts. Few men are "man enough" to embrace the success of their wives. Most men find themselves drifting away from the relationship when the wife gets more attention or brings in more money to the family. It makes them feel inferior and worst, inutile. But in a healthy relationship, it should not be the case. On the other hand, a successful wife who gets consumed with the power she finds in success can also drift away from the relationship because with the confidence and independence that she now possess, she feels she can support the family on her own even without her husband.
These mindsets tear apart marriages and it's lucky for those couples who can hold it together despite all these. Maybe if both would just concentrate on the family's well-being as a whole, regardless of who brings in more or who makes more, then I believe a marriage can successfully withstand this.
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@easy888 (10404)
• Australia
5 Jun 07
Hello,cdparazo,I think the most sucessful women may have less chance for having a sucessful relationship.They may be too busy at their work,they may have to work for long hours,they may not have enough time for their partners.
But I think there should not be a must for women to submit to their husband all the time,if the women do not want something or have different opinions,they should talk to their husbands rather than follow them all the time.
