child support
By babygirl6946
@babygirl6946 (97)
United States
March 12, 2007 3:00pm CST
My son Andrew calls my fiance daddy and that was his choice. He could have called him Randy but, he didn't. He calls my fiance daddy or dad. Randy has pretty much helped me raise Andrew and he has been there for him as a father figure. I still go to court over child support and I'm getting really tired of it but, I'm not the only one that created Andrew so, I don't think I should be the only one supporting him either. Even though Randy helps me support him.....I still fight for child support. Is that wrong of me even though in our eyes Randy is my sons father?
2 responses
@contuletz2007 (734)
• Romania
12 Mar 07
you're not wrong AT ALL! just like you said, Andrew is not only your child. i don't know what made you and his father break up, and i don't even want to open this subject. but no matter which one of you did something wrong, you both have to raise Andrew. with or without Randy's help. i mean, Randy came in your lives and accepted to to this for you two, but that doesn't mean that the responsability Andrew's father has, just dissapears.
i'm glad to hear that your son treats your fiancee as his own father, you should be more than proud and happy about this!
don't worry so much about this matter! do all it takes for your and your child's rights no matter what. after all, your son deserves it!
@babygirl6946 (97)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Andrews biological father wants nothing to do with him and hasn't wanted anything to do with him since he was born so.....Randy basically took Davids place.
@contuletz2007 (734)
• Romania
12 Mar 07
that's because you were lucky to find Randy. What if you hadn't had him in your life? What would you have done then?
let's look at it from another angle. what if Randy starts to feel used? giving up any help you could get from your son's father would maybe offend him, and make him feel like a substitute father after all! get to think about it!
@babygirl6946 (97)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I don't know....Randy's been around for a while now and we also have a daughter together and he plans on adopting Andrew when we get married so, I don't think he'd get offended by anything because David's made it clear he wants nothing to do with me or my son and he knows that Andrew calls Randy dad.
@kellahinx (370)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Child support is a legal matter and not an emotional one. Even if your child doesn't consider his biological father to be his real father, it doesn't mean that you don't need money to raise your child. The only reason I wouldn't take child support is if you have plenty of money and don't need anything for your child and the biological father is not as well off. I can't justify taking money from somone who needs it and giving it to someone who doesn't, but more than likely that is not the case. Kids can be expensive which is why the child support laws were put in place in the first place.
@babygirl6946 (97)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Thank you so much for your response! I wasn't sure if it was right of me or not to still fight for support.
